It is with great pleasure that I formally introduce to you — THE LIFE OF A SINGLE MOM MINISTRIES. Wow, what a journey this has been!  Many of you know my story and why I love what I do, but maybe you did not realize my life’s biggest passion.

67% of single parents in our country do not actively attend church.  There are 300,000+ Christian churches in the country and less than 1% do ANYTHING for single parents. That is a huge problem for me on many levels.  First, I was the broken, hurting single mom who did not attend church, because I felt like the church would judge me (and some did) and I did not feel like anyone could possibly understand how hard things were for me.  Second, as Christians, our hearts’ desire should be that EVERY person feel like they have a place to belong inside our church walls.  And last, I have seen first-hand the radical change that takes place in lives of single mothers who genuinely connect to their local church.

Today, I have the great honor of hosting one of the nations’ largest single mom support groups in a local church, where we started with only 3 moms (thanks to the generosity of Healing Place Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana).  Through the years, I have seen our group grow to hundreds and we have unwed mothers, divorced moms, widowed moms, and those who are separated from their husbands.  I have seen young teen moms of fifteen get involved and divorcees in their fifties.  I have seen uneducated, educated, financially secure, and financially destitute — and everything in between — get involved and find a place to belong in our single moms’ group. Continue reading »

 

Oh, the sweet innocence of a newborn!  There is nothing quite so special as holding a cuddly, soft newborn as they gaze up at you with wonder and amazement - their eyes so wide, their futures so bright.  When is it, along the way, that we forget that innocence of the children that God has entrusted us with? 

 ”Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 22:6

I have clung to that Scripture many, many times when I was certain that I was a total failure as a mother.  I have prayed that very verse repeatedly when my teenagers were furious with my parenting decisions.  And in my years of parenting and counseling those who are also on the journey, there are many things I have learned through trial and error (and am still learning).  But this simple fact I know is true.  Continue reading »

 

Sometimes life is so busy, so stressful, and so overwhelming that having a conversation with a 4-year-old is an absolute necessity.  Each of my children bring great joy to my life and my love for them is as unique and different as they are.  But, I honestly must say that I did not have the time or maturity to really enjoy my children in their younger years, until the third time around….and my youngest one is hilarious!  I thought you may enjoy hearing some of our random conversations.

“Momma, can I have a twin, pleeezzzeee?!” Continue reading »

 

I was driving along this morning and if I am to be really honest with you, I was feeling quite sorry for myself.  My family and I have undergone tremendous hardship over the last 60 days and I needed a pity party.   I have felt like it has been pretty close to the brink of “too much”.  Maybe you’ve been there.  Maybe you know the feelings of exhaustion, stress, pressure, and anger, of which I write.  

As I was driving along, I began to pray about why God would allow me to endure such hardship.  Of course, we all have them, but today, I wasn’t really worried about anybody’s else’s hardships – just my own.  All of a sudden, I had a very random, yet profound thought. 

 ”Imagine your life without contacts.”  Continue reading »

 

It is with great excitement that I announce my upcoming book, The Church and the Single Mom, will be available in just a few weeks.  It truly has been an exciting journey to see this project take shape.

Years ago, I took my very first job at a pizza place. As a young single mom, I really needed that job. I even showed up in a business suit for the interview!  Some time later, I took a job in office management and would often bring paperwork home, because I wanted my office to run efficiently.  The same has been true for this new book.  It truly has been a labor of love. I have labored over exactly what to say, how to say it, and how to make the most impact on a much-needed, yet rarely-addressed topic.  The Church and the Single Mom broaches a subject that many would want to avoid.  It clearly defines exactly what is going on in the country in reference to single parenting, why we should care, and exactly what we can do about it.  It is a challenging book that was written from a deep place within me that longs for others to open their eyes and see. 

I have been honored to have some of the most prestigous single parent experts to endorse the book, including Bill McLeod, founder of Single Parents Town Continue reading »

 

Simple thought for today:  Although there are times when parenting is overwhelmingly difficult, rest in knowing that progress is being made.  Through the years, I have felt like screaming and running my fist in the wall due to frustration in parenting.  I was certain that nothing I said was getting through to my pre-teens and teens. 

I was wrought with fear that my children would make the same mistakes that I had or choose the wrong path.  I sit with many parents throughout the week and hear this same fear from them. 

A few weeks ago, something strange, but wonderful happened.  My teens were part of a weekend teen conference at my local church.  There were more than a thousand teens there from all over the country and it was a phenomenal experience.  Parents were able to watch online and we caught bits and pieces of it.  Both my teens asked to have friends spend the night.  We had a total of 8 teens that were here.  It was 12:30am.  I was tired, and the kids were being way too loud for that hour.  But….on my way back to correct them, I stopped.  I stood outside each of their doors and heard the innocent giggles.  I stopped and smiled.  I didn’t say a word.  Continue reading »

 

We are told from the time we are born that what is most important is on the inside.  “Pretty is as pretty does.”  I can remember an older relative saying to me.  But, if that is true, why is it also that we hear from such a young age, “Isn’t she beautiful?  Look at those gorgeous brown eyes!” 

We recently held a Night of Beauty at our local church for single moms.  We had hundreds to show up and receive free hand treatments, makeovers, spa gift certificates, and free high-end perfume.  We also prepared a free meal and childcare for the event.  It was truly a blessing for many of the women.  And although we were pampering their outside appearances, we were able to tie in an important message about true beauty.

I”ll share just a few simple thoughts here.  Continue reading »