Over the past few years I have talked about my experiences with raising children as a single dad. People ask me all the time “how do you do it”, to which I respond “I just do it”. Really when you think about it, we all have some sort of experiences from our childhood that we can draw upon. Some of those memories are positive and some of those memories are negative.

Too often I talk to frustrated parents who say “My parents raised me to be what I am today, why can’t I do the same with my kids”. Or “My kids just don’t understand how good they have it”. Allow me to break the news to you folks, life wasn’t always a bundle of roses for you growing up, and I guarantee you that it wasn’t for your parents either. Kids are kids, God bless them. They are here to challenge us, test us, negotiate with us and generally push every button that they can. If you are going to try and compare how you were raised, with raising kids today, you need to wake up and smell reality.

When I was playing high school football we had three plays. Run left, run right and run up the middle. It was a pretty simple game plan. Now days the parenting game plan, just like football game plans, have become more complicated. Whether you are single parent like me, or part of a two parent household, give yourself some credit. Your kids will be just fine. As long as you listen to them, talk to them, are honest with them, and most of all, let them know each and every day that you love them, things will work out. Continue reading »

 

Well after over a yngle Parentear now I am about ready to launch my new book“Kickin Butt as a Single Parent” “99 Tips that every single parent must have”. It is some what surreal when you actually get a copy of a book that you wrote. I never thought that I would write a book let alone one that is getting such great reviews. I like many of you just do what we do because we love our children and it is the right thing to do. Being a parent can be one of the most difficult things we will ever do, but at the same time the mostrewarding. I am blessed to have been able to take my experiences as well as those of others and share them with the world.

The initial reviews, some of which are below, are coming in fast and furious. I truly believe that this book will not only transform your life but that of your children’s. Yesterday at a meeting with some media types I shared my book. After just glancing at some of the tips and my writing style they asked to buy ten books on the spot. Moments like that just reinforce my commitment to reach out and help all parents not just single parents.

Since I am self publishing this book I need your help. If you are willing to share the book with your email list or willing to allow me to put a banner on your website please let me know. I am willing to send you a free copy of the book just for helping me. Continue reading »

 

Today I want to post a letter that was written back in 2005 by Ms. Polly Sigh. I think that it will remind all of us how blessed we are to live in the greatest country in the world. Have a great holiday everyone.

Dear Reader:

This weekend, as we celebrate the birth of our great nation, I ask that you ponder the meaning of freedom and democracy. And that you thank the brave men and women of yesterday and today who have sacrificed so greatly to ensure the traditions bestowed by our remarkable founders. Continue reading »

 

Since it is Friday and the weekend is upon us, I thought that I would share with you a job description that a friend of mine recently shared with me. I have posted this blog once before but believe that it it is worth repeating. I hope that it brings a smile to your face and starts your weekend off on the right foot. It is hilarious and something we can all relate to.

POSITION:

Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma Continue reading »

 

A few years ago I was emailed this list of the eleven things you will not learn in school. I was told that it was presented by Bill Gates at a High School commencment speech. Since then I have been informed that it was actually an an excerpt from the book “Dumbing Down our Kids” by educator Charles Sykes. Regardless of who said it, I was so impressed with it that I shared it with  both Jack and Michaela. OK I have shared it with them on more than one occasion :) I now want to share the list with you, because as a parent I believe that our kids have come to expect more from the world than the world is actually willing to give. I want to make sure that my kids understand that there never has been, and never will be a substitute for hard work. I hope that you enjoy it as much as I have.

RULE 1
     Life  is not fair – get used to it.

     RULE 2
     The  world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world
     will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you  feel
     good about yourself. Continue reading »

 

Over the years I have impressed others with my ability to braid Michaela’s hair. I have been doing this since she was seven so I am actually quite good at it. It is funny how people react to me when they first find out that I can do a French Braid. Guys in particular will react to me as if I am some sort of famous magician making the elephant disappear on stage. I always get the “You can do what? Wow! How do you do that”. I have to laugh because braiding hair is like riding a bike. Once you get it down you don’t forget it.

Well my days of braiding hair are coming to an end. At the urging of her good friend Sienna, Michaela made the decision to get her first perm. She has researched it extensively. Looked at her options and even printed pictures of perms she liked and those that she disliked. Finally the decision was made and off we went to her scheduled appointment. I As much as I loved to braid her hair I was not about to sit with her for two hours and read the latest gossip magazines. That duty fell upon Sienna who planted the seed.

I have to say that I was really not sure what to expect. All that I kept seeing in my mind were visions of Shirley Temple :) Being the supportive father that I am I assured  her that no matter what, I was sure it would look great. Well two hours later I headed back to see how it all turned out. I prayed that she was going to be happy with the new look. When I first saw her I was amazed. The perm turned out perfectly. She looked so beautiful and was so, so excited. Sienna was taking pictures on the cell phone, and within an hour every friend in the world was receiving pictures of the new look. Before we left Michaela got her final instructions from the stylist and we set off for home with my new daughter. That night as Michaela left for   her bedroom I could see that  a smile on her face that stretched from ear to ear. She could not wait for everyone to her at school the next day. I pictured her arriving at the car line, getting out to the red carpet and flash bulbs clicking as she flipped her hair around with confidence. That was until the world came crashing down the next morning. Continue reading »

 

There has been a lot of talk this week about spending quality time with your kids. Everyone must be feeling the same emotional yearning I am to slow down time and stop their kids from rapidly growing up. As children get older and have priorities of their own, your quality time with your child may seem less and less.

When I first started this single parent journey over 7 years ago, I was determined to not be that stereotypical single mom that Hollywood so often portrayed. You know the one…she is always frazzled and on the go, dinners consist of leftovers being heated up and thrown on the table, and the only face to face time she gets with her kids is the kiss good-bye as she is running out the door to her night job. I knew the life I had just left was not the life I wanted, but the stereotypical single mom life certainly wasn’t what I wanted either. I didn’t just want quality time with my son, I needed it. There had to be another way, and I was determined to figure it out.

My son was two when I left his father. I moved only a few blocks away so that sharing custody would be as easy as possible. In those first few years we switched parenting nights every-other day. And every-other day when I picked my son up from daycare, everything else in the world was pushed aside. This was my time with my son; he was my only care in the world for those hours few precious hours between daycare and bedtime. Nothing else took precedence. I was determined to be the opposite of those Hollywood stereotypes. We would have quality mom and son time. I was going to be a fun mom, no matter how exhausted I was. I would pick up my son, and the adventure began. Continue reading »