I made the formal announcement last Wednesday that The Life of a Single Ministries has officially launched as a nonprofit, after several years as a sole proprietorship.  I have been absolutely overwhelmed with the response.  Thank you for the encouraging comments, emails, website hits, and more. 

We exist so that every single parent across the country can feel comfortable in their local church.  We want to help churches find the right avenues to reach the single parents in their community, effectively.  And I know it is what so many of you who read my weekly columns want.

Now, I have a quick favor to ask you.  Please take a moment and help us spread the word about the ministry.  I get literally hundreds of emails per week – some from single moms desperate to connect with support groups, some from churches who want to form a support group and need help, and many from those who want to know how they can get involved with the cause.  ALL of them say they wish they would have known about what we do sooner.  Continue reading »

 

It is with great pleasure that I formally introduce to you — THE LIFE OF A SINGLE MOM MINISTRIES. Wow, what a journey this has been!  Many of you know my story and why I love what I do, but maybe you did not realize my life’s biggest passion.

67% of single parents in our country do not actively attend church.  There are 300,000+ Christian churches in the country and less than 1% do ANYTHING for single parents. That is a huge problem for me on many levels.  First, I was the broken, hurting single mom who did not attend church, because I felt like the church would judge me (and some did) and I did not feel like anyone could possibly understand how hard things were for me.  Second, as Christians, our hearts’ desire should be that EVERY person feel like they have a place to belong inside our church walls.  And last, I have seen first-hand the radical change that takes place in lives of single mothers who genuinely connect to their local church.

Today, I have the great honor of hosting one of the nations’ largest single mom support groups in a local church, where we started with only 3 moms (thanks to the generosity of Healing Place Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana).  Through the years, I have seen our group grow to hundreds and we have unwed mothers, divorced moms, widowed moms, and those who are separated from their husbands.  I have seen young teen moms of fifteen get involved and divorcees in their fifties.  I have seen uneducated, educated, financially secure, and financially destitute — and everything in between — get involved and find a place to belong in our single moms’ group. Continue reading »

 

Look at these two sweet girls.  This was taken a few years ago.  It looks like the cover of a postcard, right?  No one would ever suspect that there are times, on rare occasions, when we are near WWIII in our home. 

Although I have liberty to write about anything I choose here (thanks, Bill), I write about parenting more often than not.  Perhaps it is because parenting is the one subject for which I am asked the most questions.  Perhaps it is because it is the season of life for which I find myself immersed, right now.  Either way, I know it is a subject that none of us truly ever perfect, but I’ll share a few thoughts here on what I am learning along the way.

- The response, “Because I said so….” is NOT effective parenting.  This just doesn’t cut it, parents.  I know. I know.  This is what our parents always said and their parents before them.  However, if our primary job is to teach our kids, what are we teaching them with that phrase?  Nothing? Or maybe that one day they will be able to boss around their kids, but until then “just do as I say.”?  Be honest with your children and just tell them why you said what you said.  It alleviates the rebellion that some kids feel when they aren’t effective explained the why’s and how’s. Continue reading »

 

We have all heard the saying, “Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill.” But, do we effectively integrate that into our parenting styles?

In my perfectionist, OCD, gotta-have-everything-organized world, it seems that I often miss the mark. 

-I am often obsessing over the bed being made correctly versus lying in it with my daughter have a “girl” chat.  Continue reading »

 

Today’s post is a simple litmus test on your parenting.  I have discovered than in my busiest times of life, I must frequently evaluate my priorities.  Raising children is a season of life, a brief moment of time that will quickly end, and I don’t want to look back on the coulda, shoulda, woulda’s of child-rearing.  Here are some questions I ask myself that may also be helpful to you:

#1) How much quality time am I spending with my children?  (Note: I said quality time.)

#2) Am I too busy for my kids? Continue reading »

 

I am blessed to have here at www.singleparentstown.com the greatest single parent bloggers in the world. Michele, Jennifer, Davis, Michael and Roxy are amazing single parents who each and every week share their stories with you in such a way, that it makes you feel like they speaking to you one on one. They have all been through so much as a parent. Many of them, me included, have lost a spouse to death or addiction. Some have experienced homelessness, abandonment and poverty. Some have remarried and some have re-divorced. Some have found God to be their ultimate source of strength and some have found their experiences to be their source of life. The number one thing that I love about each of them is that they speak from experience, they speak from their hearts and they share easy and concise stories and tips that make a difference in so many people’s lives.

What also impresses me about our bloggers is that the stories and tips they share are things that more times than not, we already know. I thought that today I would share with you some insight about things that I am sure you, already know. My hope is that by reminding you what you already know, that you will be able to put to use these things so that not only your life, but the lives of your family, will be the better because of it. After reading my thoughts below, I would be honored if you would add to the list by commenting. That way all who read this blog will be better because of what you have brought to their attention about what they already know.

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My mother was killed very unexpectedly when I was only a year old.  It was a Sunday morning and she loaded me into our car to head for church, as she had many mornings prior.  She sang and played piano, so I am sure we were headed out early.  She drove down our long driveway and into the street.  She proceeded less than a mile down our street and BAM! — a drunk teenage driver hit our car, knocking us into a tree.  She was killed instantly.

It is a sad story, I know, but because I never knew her, I never really mourned her death.  I did hear stories about her through the years and learned of her personality (much of which I am similar, I hear).  I have often wondered what life would have been like if she would have been around.  I am convinced she would have taught me three things:

1.  You are beautiful.  Mothers just know that.  They know their daughters are beautiful and they do not hesitate to tell them.  I never heard that as a child.  Continue reading »