I perused the endless array of photos available on search engines this morning in hopes of finding an appropriate picture to compliment the title of today’s article, but I failed.  You see, hardships come in many forms.  I could put a picture of a homeless mother with her young son on the side of the street, but many of you could never truly relate to her single parenting experience.  I could put a picture of a father weeping at his dead spouse’s graveside, but others wouldn’t understand.  I could put a picture of a well-dressed single mother in a business suit on her way to her next business meeting, as she phones her two teens at home to check in on their homework progress.  And still yet, some couldn’t relate.  No matter what your situation, you have most assuredly dealt with some hardships in your single parenting journey.

2011 was a phenomenal year for me in so many ways and I shared some of those in a previous post.  (See http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2011/12/28/jennifer/2011-year-end-review-by-jennifer-maggio/).  But in other ways, it was one of the most difficult years our family has endured.  The hardships, MANY TIMES, seemed insurmountable. 

To give you just a glimpse…..my son broke his foot playing basketball and was unable to enjoy the spot he had earned to the national high school basketball tournaments. It may not seem like much, but he underwent physical therapy for months.  Shortly thereafter, my teen daughter sustained a volleyball injury and had to undergo major hip surgery, also ending her athletic participation for months — not to mention the medical and hospital bills that mounted.  And honestly, this is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of medical bills totaling more than we have ever paid in years’ past, the woes of parenting teens, relationship difficulties, ministry hardships, and more. Continue reading »

 

1).  Enjoy your season.  You’ve heard me say it before and you’ll hear me say it again and again.  How many parents look back when their children adults and say, “I spent WAY too much time with my son. I wish we had not had all that quality time, laughing and talking.”  Enjoy what God has given you today — not focusing on what you don’t have.

2).  Parent effectively.  Don’t make excuses.  Your parenting will, at least in part, determine how your children behave as adults, so get to it!

3). Create traditions with your family.  Maybe your “family” is just yourself and your little one, right now.  Don’t let that deter you from creating fun traditions in your home.  Maybe your tradition can be cooking Saturday breakfast together or taking walks in your neighborhood on Sunday afternoons.  There are hundreds of ways you can create traditions and further strengthen your relationship with your children, no matter their age. Continue reading »

 

It’s Thanksgiving, so I have to join in with all the other bloggers out there and list my most-thankful-for’s! I am most thankful for:

#1) Living a life in total freedom through Christ.

#2) My loving, adoring husband that I was certain I would never find (and who definitely wouldn’t want me when I found him). Continue reading »

 

Since my life’s passion is the single parent and specifically connecting single parents to their local church, it stands to reason that I would get tons of emails, comments, and questions about the local church.  So I wanted to highlight for you, the single parent, what it is you should be asking your local church:

#1) What do you believe?  Get on their website.  Look at their “core beliefs” tab.  Find out if what the believe lines up with the Bible.  I am all about outreaches, fun environments, friendships in the local church, etc., but if they are teaching the wrong things, it is all in vain. So crack open your Bible.

#2) Are you outreach-minded?  If your church is not reaching outside its walls to serve the hurting, helpless, homeless, impoverished, and marginalized…….BIG RED FLAG!  Every one of us should be reaching outside ourselves to extend a helping hand.  If your church isn’t doing that, ummm…….well…………find another church. Continue reading »

 

In a day and time when many are taught from a very young age to be selfish, stingy, and demand that we “get ours”(or throw a fit trying), I thought it relevant to go back to the simple principle of generosity.  

Most of us are familiar with Acts 20:35 ”….it is more blessed to give than receive.” 

Do we really get that? Do we understand what that means?  I absolutely love to give gifts to my children at Christmas.  I love to see my four-year-old’s face beam with joy as she opens a new baby doll or dish set.  (My teens’ faces usually only glisten with cash these days, but nonetheless….). What about when we aren’t speaking about our own children, friends, or family?  What about the stranger who is begging roadside or the homeless woman who has two children to care for?   Do you give them? Do you enjoy giving to them?  Or do we run down the list of possible reasons why they “got themselves into that position?” Continue reading »

 

Oh, the sweet innocence of a newborn!  There is nothing quite so special as holding a cuddly, soft newborn as they gaze up at you with wonder and amazement - their eyes so wide, their futures so bright.  When is it, along the way, that we forget that innocence of the children that God has entrusted us with? 

 ”Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 22:6

I have clung to that Scripture many, many times when I was certain that I was a total failure as a mother.  I have prayed that very verse repeatedly when my teenagers were furious with my parenting decisions.  And in my years of parenting and counseling those who are also on the journey, there are many things I have learned through trial and error (and am still learning).  But this simple fact I know is true.  Continue reading »

 

Last week, I shared 5 tips on how to save money in your home.   Based on the positive response, I wanted to give you 5 more that I have found to be helpful.  I did financial counseling for 10 years in Corporate America and learned a great deal of proper money management.  What’s more, I walked away from a six-figure salary to walk into full-time volunteering a few years ago and had to become quite creative on how to make ends meet, until my business launched.  Here’s what I learned:

  1. Take advantage of coupons and rebates.  Couponing alone could become a full-time job and most of us do not have that type of time to dedicate to the task.  However, if you make even a minimal effort to research what grocery and discount stores in your area are running special coupon programs, you can literally save $100′s every month.  It is well worth an hour of your time per week.
  2. Learn about “Kids Eat Free” specials.  There are websites in almost every community that broadcast the daily kids-eat-free restaurants.  If you are going to eat out anyway, why not find the places that will allow you bring children for free? 
  3. Learn the art of the Crockpot Meal.  Admittedly, I have never been a great fan of cooking and only did so out of necessity.  I ate out quite a bit when my kids were younger and I am certain that I fed them far too many beanie-weenies.  A few years back, I dug out my slow-cooker from under the cabinet and committed to learn recipes.  There are hundreds of recipes to cook almost any kind of meat.  The neat thing is this — not only are you feeding your family a healthier meal and a significantly lower cost than eating out, it is an easy way to have a warm family meal together.
  4. Buy only used automobiles.  This is necessity.  Brand-new cars lose their value almost immediately.  Yet, we often pay for them for years.  Cars are made so efficiently today that almost any car is certain to last for years.  Purchase a car that is at least 24-36 months old and save dramatically on purchase price.
  5. Drive slower.  Simply but very true.  Faster speeds burn more gas.  With gas prices sky-rocketing upwards of $4.00 per gallon, you can save hundreds annually by simply going 5 miles slower per hour. 
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