Aug 252012
 

Twitter isn’t just for letting the world know about your breakfast anymore. The social media site has become a place parents can turn to to find solace and to connect with others who are going through the process of raising kids. From daycare to dinner, short and sweet tweets let moms and dads share the very often quite funny things their children do each day.

Twitter has become a place to share pictures of kids in toddler costumes or otherwise looking adorable. Tweeting also gives parents a place to vent when the requirements of the job get to be too much.

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Aug 132012
 

“With everything that happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

Wayne Dyer

I have reflected back on this quote many times over the past few years. I sometimes wonder if the author was a single parent? Over the past seven years I have been through living with an alcoholic, a broken marriage, interventions, rehab. centers, a separation, a divorce, the death of my children’s mother, the death of their grandmother, the executor of two estates, an IRS audit (which I won), a failing business, the meltdown of my investments in the stock market, a depreciating home value, raising my kids on my own 24/7, dealing with their grief, anxiety and fear issues and wondering when it will all stop? One thing that I refuse to do is feel sorry for myself. Hell, I don’t have enough hours in the day to feel sorry for myself. I remember that someone once told me that the difference in life between a pessimist and and optimist is really nothing. The optimist just enjoys life more:) I have to say that I have really tried to enjoy life but sometimes it is difficult. When you spend your whole day taking care of, and worrying about everyone else it can wear on you. For as long as I can remember my mom has always told me that “God only puts as much on your shoulders as you can handle.” Now I know why I work out seven days a week. My shoulders need the strength. Continue reading »

Aug 042012
 

Please welcome our Guest Blogger for the week Marcos Doyle:

Marcos Doyle
Marcos spent his college years working alongside culinary legends. This made him realize his love for all things food, and he is now a freelance blogger with one foot in the kitchen at all times.
Jul 092012
 

So often I hear from people who want to make a change in their life but are either afraid, or unwilling to take the first step. What is it that keeps people from making a change? Is it that they fear the unknown? Is it that they believe that the sacrifice is greater than the reward? Or is just that they enjoy wallowing in their own unhappiness? No matter what the reason, or excuse that they use, they continue to live in a state of unhappiness, despair and self grief. Well today I am going to change that for you. Today I am going to give your three small things to do that I guarantee will change your life. Not one of these things will require you to lose weight, get up early, or make a drastic change in your life, but if done twice a day for the next 21 days they Will Change Your Life. Are you ready to take the challenge?

Here is the deal. Getting out of a bad relationship, working out, losing weight, dealing with your kids, getting a new job, changing your financial picture and finding happiness come from one place, and only one place YOUR MIND. You first must believe in it in order to achieve it. Below are three things that I challenge you today to say to yourself each morning when you get up, and each evening when you go to bed. I challenge you to not just recite them but to believe in them. Say them with conviction, say them with intention and say them as if they are the three most important things you will ever tell yourself. Once you do they will become part of your mind set, your being and your future.

Never forget that making a change starts with you first,and then in your mind. I believe in the power of visualization people. I have seen it work and I know that if you just do it yourself for the next 21 days your life will begin to change right before your eyes. Continue reading »

Jun 252012
 

I wanted to share with you a poem that was recently given to me. I truly believe that if we would just live by it’s words, we would all be the better for it, and our children would have an example of what it means to live your life to the fullest.

 

                                                                  LIVING AND GIVING Continue reading »

Jun 112012
 

Over the past few years I have shared with you my experiences of raising children as a single dad. People ask me all the time “how do you do it”, to which I respond “I just do it”. Really when you think about it, we all have some sort of experiences from our childhood that we can draw upon. Some of those memories are positive and some of those memories are negative. Too often I talk to frustrated parents who say “My parents raised me to be what I am today, why can’t I do the same with my kids”. Or “My kids just don’t understand how good they have it”. Allow me to break the news to you folks, life wasn’t always a bundle of roses for you growing up, and I guarantee you that it wasn’t for your parents either.

Kids are kids, God bless them. They are here to challenge us, test us, negotiate with us and generally push every button that they can. If you are going to try and compare how you were raised, with raising kids today, you need to wake up and smell reality. When I was playing high school football we had three plays. Run left, run right and run up the middle. It was a pretty simple game plan. Now days the parenting game plan just like football game plans, have become more complicated. Whether you are single parent like me, or part of a two parent household, give yourself some credit. Your kids will be just fine. As long as you listen to them, talk to them, are honest with them, and most of all, let them know each and every day that you love them, things will work out.

In order to show you how raising kids has changed over the last 40 years, I have listed some of the differences between  raising children in 1957 and raising children today. Times have changed, and so must we as parents. Fortunately the basic values of good parenting will always remain the same. If you want to be a successful parent then “Just do it”. And as always, remember that….. Continue reading »

Jun 032012
 

Today I want to challenge each and everyone of you with my blog. I want to challenge you to be brutally honest with yourself and ask yourself just one question “Are you in Denial?”. I will bet that the majority of you will emphatically answer NO. I’m not in denial, I fully accept what has gone on in my life, what is going on in my life and why it has all happened, I have no regrets… But I will say to you right now that you ARE in denial, you just don’t know it yet. First let’s understand what denial is. Webster’s Dictionary defines Denial as: Refusal to admit the truth or reality (as of a statement or charge) (2) : assertion that an allegation is false. Many of you are probably asserting right now that my allegation that you are in denial is false. But allow me to give you another definition of denial from Debbie Ford’s book “Why Good People Do Bad Things”. A must read by the way… “When the collective wounds of our past become to great for our human heart to bear, an internal switch flips on that sends us into denial”. “When the pain is more than we can handle, when we have no tools to deal with the trauma of a particular situation, we automatically kick into the denial mode”. “Denial is a brilliant function within the human psyche”. “In it’s highest function, denial serves us by protecting us from pain. Yet to our great detriment, it also blinds us from seeing our own destructive nature, which inevitably causes us more pain”. Although denial can assist us with our pain, it can also turn us into our own worst enemy. So again I will challenge you to ask yourself the question “Are you in Denial?”. I believe that as parents, friends, family and individuals we are all at one time or another, in denial. We deny to acknowledge that life hasn’t exactly gone the way that we planned it, for fear that others will think less of us. We deny that our children have problems, in order to hide our fears of what people will think of us as parents. We deny ourselves the right to be vulnerable, because we fear that people will perceive us to be weak. We deny that our finances are a mess, because we fear that people will judge us. We deny that every once in awhile we need some help, because we fear that no one will be there to help us. We deny those closest to us the opportunity to love us, because our constant denials have denied us the time to love ourselves. And finally we deny ourselves the chance to be happy, to be proud, to feel confident and to be successful because it is easier to feel sorry for ourselves, than it is to become the person we are destined to be. Denial can pretend to comfort you, when in reality it is an uncomfortable enemy. It is the one emotion that keeps us down when we should be getting up. It is the one emotion that pushes us away instead of pulling us forward. It is the one emotion that allows us to feel sorry for ourselves when we should be believing in ourselves. It is the one emotion that allows us to accept our negativity as acceptable, when in reality we should be positively denying it. So again I challenge each and everyone of you again to ask yourself the question, “Am I in Denial?”. If you answered YES this time, then I challenge you to make a change right now. Challenge yourself to deny denial! Challenge yourself to be the authentic self you were destine to be and made to be. Get out of that bad relationship that is draining you, get out of that job that is holding you back, get out of that mind set that is telling you that you are no good. Get out your heart and accept that you are worthy of love again, but most importantly get out of your own way, by getting out of denial now. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be strong, you deserve to be proud of who you are, and you deserve to be loved more than anyone in this world. You deserve to deny denial once and for all…

Bill McLeod is the founder of www.singleparentstown.com The author of “Kickin Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have” and a Life Coach to Single Parents www.billmcleodcoaching.com . He can be reached at bill@singleparentstown.com You can also follow Bill on Facebook and Twitter