“You Had Me At Hello”

 Posted by Bill on March 28, 2011  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Organizing, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers  No Responses »
Mar 282011
 

In the 1986 movie “Jerry Maguire” there is a famous line where Jerry (Tom Cruise) flies back home to meet Dorothy ( Renee Zellweger) to tell her that he loves her and wants her in his life, and she tells him “You had me at hello”. What made that line so famous was that although the couple had been arguing for sometime, those five words “You had me at hello” said it all.

Sometimes in life when we say less, we are actually saying more!

When I was growing up,  my friends and I would pass each other in the hall and nod our heads. It was our way of acknowledging each other. Nodding our heads was our way of letting the other person know that they meant something to us. Nodding our heads said it all. Continue reading »

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Everything I Need To Know About Life I learned In The Last 60 Days!

 Posted by Bill on March 14, 2011  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Organizing, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting, Uncategorized  3 Responses »
Mar 142011
 

What have I been doing with my life? I always thought that life was suppose to teach me things each and every step of the way. As a young boy I attended school every day because I was told that it would teach me things that I didn’t already know. I graduated from college thinking that I would be wiser from the experience. I have tried and failed on my own for what seems like forever, because I was told that life lessons are invaluable. Imagine my surprise when I finally realized that “Everything I Need To Know About Life I learned In The Last 60 Days”! . Here are the things that I have learned about life over the past 60 days.

* Hard work does pay off.

* Time spent by yourself is the best way to reflect upon what’s important to you, and only you. It’s also a great way to calm your mind. Continue reading »

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I Had the Greatest Date Last Saturday Night!

 Posted by Bill on February 28, 2011  Balancing Work and Children, General, Nutrition, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Uncategorized  2 Responses »
Feb 282011
 

If you have been following my blogs lately, you know that I seem to be on a two date maxium  I Think I’m Going To Be Single For Awhile… My daughter Michaela, even went so far as to tell me I have commitment issues My Daughter Say’s That I have Commitment Issues, I Say I Have Time Management Issues 

Well that all of that changed last Saturday night. I decided to ask a very special person out to dinner. We have had dinner before, but I wanted to make sure that this time she knew how special she was. I also wanted to make sure that my invitation was done  the right way. Knowing that she is a fan of the reality show “The Bachelor” I bought her one red rose, printed a very nice invitation and presented them to her. She read the invite, accepted the rose and accepted my invitation. I couldn’t believe that she said yes with all of the other commitments she has. Knowing that she loves Italian food, I made sure we got reservations at one of the nicest Italian restaurants in Denver.

Before I tell you about my night, let me tell you more about my date. She is a beautiful person both inside and out. She loves sports like I do, is positive and enegetic, and best of all carries herself with style and dignity. I have known her for what seems like forever and have actually had dinner with her before. I was always impressed with how she would carry on a conversation, as well as  how polite and respectful she was. Continue reading »

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My Daughter Say’s That I have Committment Issues, I Say I Have Time Management Issues

 Posted by Bill on February 7, 2011  Balancing Work and Children, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, Raising Children as a Single Parent  2 Responses »
Feb 072011
 

So my blog last week I Think I’m Going To Be Single For Awhile…seemed to stir up a few comments from many of you. More than one person emailed, called or texted me with their thoughts about it. Half the people said “Well there goes some of your readers” and the other half said “Bill you just issued a challenge”. My daughter said “Dad you have commitment issues”. First I am sure that I did not lose many of my readers, and fortunately or unfortunately, no one  has yet challenged me. In fairness to Michaela I decided to look up the definition of commitment issues. Wikipedia describes “The Fear of Commitment” as:

Fear of commitment in much popular literature refers to avoidance of long-term partnership and/or marriage but the problem is often much more pervasive, affecting school, work, and home life as well.

I don’t have any commitment issues. At one time I was committed to my marriage and my past relationships. I am committed to my children, my friends and my passions. I am committed to helping single parents succeed, my website, my future coaching program and webinars. I am committed to being honest, ambitious, positive and a good role model. I am committed to my beliefs, working out at the gym every day and believing in myself. I am even committed to believing that the right person will come into my life again. I don’t have any commitment issues! What I have are time management issues! Continue reading »

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How Do You Spell Love?

 Posted by Bill on December 27, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting, Uncategorized  2 Responses »
Dec 272010
 

Whenever I speak to groups, I always like to give them a little spelling test. It is really a very easy test, but one that everyone always seems to fail. My question is “How do you spell Love”? Most of the time everyone will proudly answer, L.O.V.E. Oh sure there are the occasional L.U.V.’s that come out, but in general L.O.V.E. is the answer. Each time I do this I have to correct the audience. The real way to spell L.O.V.E. is T.I.M.E. If you truly want to show your children, your family, your friends, yourself  and others in your life that you love them, then you need to spend time with them.

If there is one thing that we never seem to have enough of it’s time. We all seem to be busy running around, taking care of ourselves, our kids, our jobs and are so preoccupied with life, that we just don’t spend enough time with those that are closest to us. Every year around this time, what is the one thing that we all like to say? “Where has the time gone”? Someone once told me that if you want to live forever then get married, because when you are single times flies by and once you get married, time slows down to a crawl:) That person by the way is now divorced! Continue reading »

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My Wish…

 Posted by Bill on December 13, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, Organizing, Raising Children as a Single Parent  1 Response »
Dec 132010
 

My blog last week  A Letter To Sara, My Deceased Ex. Wife apparently hit a chord with so many of you. I want to thank all of you who called me, emailed me and shared the blog with your friends. The problem one has when they open up as I did, is then following it up with a new blog that has as much feeling in it.

As I contemplated this weekend what to write so many thoughts went through my head. What can I share that will have the same meaning? How am I going to follow up my last blog with anything even close to the emotion and feelings that I did last week? Then I heard “The Song”. “The Song” that has always struck a chord in my heart for my kids. “The Song” that I pray Jack and Michaela will never forget the words too. “The Song” that I have actually copied the lyrics too and intend to hand to both of my kids when they leave home and go out into the world on their own. I hope that you enjoy it and maybe, just maybe, it will strike a chord in your heart as well this holiday season.

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A Letter To Sara, My Deceased Ex. Wife

 Posted by Bill on December 6, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting  15 Responses »
Dec 062010
 

Dear Sara;

It’s been almost three and a half years since you passed away, five years since we divorced and seven years since you left me to be a sole parent to Jack and Michaela. I figured that maybe now we should talk again. First let me update you on the kids.

Jack for the most part is doing great. He has friends that love him, a personality that you would cherish and and a stubbornness that you would respect. He is peaceful in his spirit, smart in his thinking but like you he occasionally plays the victim.  If God didn’t tell you he had the 30th highest score on his high school entrance exam, out of 425 kids. He gets that from you Sara. Unfortunately school seems to bore him and thus his GPA is around a 2.something (he gets that from me). He is 5’7 1/2 ” and is committed to joining the US Army Rangers when he gets out of high school. I really want him to attend college but he is adamant that his calling is with the Rangers. I know that it is not what either of us would have chosen for him but I will support him all the way. I am actually very proud of him because how many 16 year olds are there that know exactly what they want to do with their life.  I am so proud of him and you would be as well.

He is like you in so many ways Sara, but he is still so angry with you. I know that he won’t admit it to me but he misses you dearly. He needed a mom in his life to hold him when he felt sad, to comfort him when he was sick and to talk to him like only a mom can do. I worry about him because he has not had that female influence around since you died. I know that he is strong, but it’s one thing for me to know this, and totally another to understand it. Now that he is 16 I worry that I can’t help him anymore. I remind him daily of all the wonderful traits he inherited from you and how much you loved him, but I know that he tunes it out. Don’t worry though, I know deep down in my heart that he loves you with all his heart, and will one day make us both very proud. Continue reading »

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