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THIS IS A MUST….AGAIN!!!!

I learned a lot from my daughter Henley this week. She had her first prom. She knew her relationship with her boyfriend was over. She played the same game with herself that we all do. She felt bad that she felt this way when prom was upon them. After all, he had pulled out all the stops on how he asked her to prom. She didn’t want to be ‘mean’. She didn’t want to look like a ‘bitch.’ She talked about waiting it out to see if it got better. It wasn’t going to get better, we all saw it. After her dad listened to one of her stories he said, “Yeah…it’s over.” But she couldn’t get past the ‘prom’ thing…until she did. She realized quickly that things were not going to change for her. Her feelings had changed simply because they did. As bad as she felt, she broke up with him the day after prom.

That took courage and in the end was the best thing she could have done for both of them.

If only we could all take a lesson from Henley’s break up book. Continue reading »

This is going to be short, sweet, and the most freeing blog you have read in a long time.

It is a question everyone has an opinion on. There are books written about this. There are therapists who are paid lots of money to help people find the right answer to this question. Most say 6 months.
So…what is the question that causes so many debates, guilt, and…lies??? And what is up with 6 months?

When Do You Tell Your Kids About The New Person In Your Life?

Like I said most experts and non-experts say 6 months is a healthy time to involve the children into your new relationship. I have to ask, why is 6 months the magic number? Did someone do a study? And if they did, what did they find?
Did they find 6 months of lying? Hiding? Not making their children a part of their life? Continue reading »

On Monday February 20th four young beautiful college students lost their lives in a tragic car accident on a treacherous stretch of freeway in Northern Minnesota. My heart like so many others broke upon hearing the news and I once again found myself asking the question of WHY? Regardless of all the grief and loss I have faced over the years I could not wrap my head around this senseless accident and I could not get the vision of these beautiful girls out of my mind. Perhaps it was the fact that they were so young. Perhaps it was because they had just spent a wonderful long holiday weekend at their homes with family and friends with no clue life was about to end. Perhaps it was because they had so much life ahead of them. Perhaps it was because it hit too close to home and it could have been my daughters Danielle and Jordan in that car and heading back to school.

Days later the vision still haunts me and while I cannot find any answers to the WHY or make sense of this loss it served as a painful reminder that we truly don’t know what the future holds. The only real thing anyone has is this very moment and just as life can be good in that moment it can drastically change in the next. Those girls were full of life and like so many other kids they said goodbye, got into that car and headed back to school and towards their dreams. They never made it and their lives were cut short. We all know this at some level yet we easily forget to embrace and appreciate every moment. Life gets busy and we get distracted with where we have been and where we are going versus where we are right NOW. It is hard to focus on those things that are most important and truly matter when we are drowning in stress, regret or worry. I am guilty as charged but every time something like this happens it is a cruel wake-up call that we waste too much time on so many things that mean nothing in the end. Continue reading »