After I publish my Friday blog each week, I often wonder how I will come up with something to write about the next week.  At some point, it seems the ideas will run out.  What am I thinking??  This is parenting we are talking about, and the one thing parents never run out of is ideas.  Each week I know at least one of my children will say or do something that will give me plenty of topics to write about.

This week it was my youngest son on one of his adventurous sleep walking episodes.  Technically, it probably isn’t sleep walking.  He just has a habit of waking in the middle of the night, still half asleep and wandering through the house with little clue as to what he is doing.  Ask him about it the next morning and he can’t tell you what he said or did.  We have some pretty good stories from it, though.  Like the time I heard someone walking around about 2 in the morning, only to find it was my son who decided he needed to use the bathroom.  Problem was, in his sleep induced state he mistook a house plant for the toilet and proceeded to water the plant.  Again, he had no recollection of it the next morning. Continue reading »

 

Is your life like a carpet or granite counter top?

I know you are probably thinking….What?

Funny analogy I know but keep reading and it will make perfect sense.
One day I was having a challenge and I realized it was a challenge that I think was cleaned up but here it is again. I think it is cleaned up but it shows up again. Just like a darn carpet stain. We spend hundreds of dollars to hire someone to get those pesky stains out of our beautiful carpet so our home looks beautiful again thinking….yay…that stain is gone forever!

Wrong!

I know for me it is often stains I don’t even recall causing but they are there staring up at me as I walk through the family room or up the stairs. I know for me I ask, “what are these stains and where the heck did they come from?” Continue reading »

 

I’ve been on a journey recently……what am I talking about?!  I’ve been on a journey for the last sixteen years – the art of letting go.  I have read dozens of parenting books.  I regularly seek the counsel of friends and family.  Yet, I am convinced that absolutely nothing prepares you for the day you realize that your little boy is becoming a man – the day he enters high school, the day he drives away for the first time without you in the car, the day he goes on his first date.  It’s hard. 

I am not there.  I have not arrived.  I am still learning the art of letting go.  But I wanted to share with you some things I have learned on this journey that you may find helpful:

1.  Their mistakes do not always reflect your poor parenting.  Continue reading »

 

Last night I was watching a documentary on CNBC about a topic that upsets me deeply and one that I am very passionate about. It is a topic that, quite frankly, is often misunderstood, lacks awareness and it is one that many people would prefer to forget. Unfortunately, HUMAN TRAFFICKING is not going away and it is actually becoming a far bigger issue and problem than any one of us would like to believe. Watching these young women share their stories brought me to tears and made me so angry. As a mother of three daughters whom I love more than anything in this world, I was enraged at the horrific abuse these young girls endured and it was once again a dark and painful reminder that this monster is alive, thriving and lives closer than most people realize. The terror, pain and abuse these young girls survived was appalling and sadly, the circumstances that led these innocent and unsuspecting girls to their fate could happen to anyone.

As with many things in life, perception is everything and human trafficking falls prey to a great deal of misperception. Often times, people that live in the United States are lulled into a false sense of security because they believe human trafficking does not happen here. People believe that human trafficking is a crime that happens in other countries and that the victims are poor, runaways or drug addicts. It is time for a wake-up call. Human trafficking can happen to anyone and is prejudice to no one! It does not matter if you are male or female, young or old, rich or poor. It does not matter where you live, what ethnicity you are or what level of education you may have reached.

Human trafficking is a booming business in the United States and it is in the cities, small towns and the suburbs. Our children are at risk just like everyone else. The perpetrators are finding their victims in on- line chat rooms, at malls, schools, after-school programs, theaters and parties. All kids can be vulnerable and these perpetrators are smart, enticing kids with false promises of modeling jobs, gifts, clothes, popularity, love, money, friendship, drugs and more. At times, girls are being used to recruit unsuspecting girls into this nightmare. While teenagers are often targeted kids are trafficked at all ages. The belief that this only happens to runaway kids and in other parts of the world is wrong. It is happening everywhere and it is happening NOW. Continue reading »

 

Whenever I speak to groups, I always like to give them a little spelling test. It is really a very easy test, but one that everyone always seems to fail. My question is “How do you spell Love”? Most of the time everyone will proudly answer, L.O.V.E. Oh sure there are the occasional L.U.V.’s that come out, but in general L.O.V.E. is the answer. Each time I do this I have to correct the audience. The real way to spell Love is T.I.M.E. If you truly want to show your children, your family, your friends, yourself  and others in your life that you love them, then you need to spend time with them.

If there is one thing that we never seem to have enough of it’s time. We all seem to be busy running around, taking care of ourselves, our kids, our jobs and are so preoccupied with life, that we just don’t spend enough time with those that are closest to us. Every year around this time, what is the one thing that we all like to say? “Where has the time gone”? Someone once told me that if you want to live forever then get married, because when you are single times flies by and once you get married, time slows down to a crawl:) That person by the way is now divorced! Continue reading »

 

I have been racking my brain tyring to decide what to write about for my first blog. There are so many topics but the one I feel is most important is nutrition. What you eat is 70-80% of what you do that affects your health and how you look and feel. Exercise is only one part of a small time commitment to your health and fitness program. It’s what happens outside of the gym that has an emormous impact on the results you are trying to achieve. You should provide adequate and well balanced nutrition to your body. The food we eat supplies nutrients needed for muscle growth, recovery, and daily life activities. What you eat affects how your body performs. Here are my top “rules” for a well balanced diet that will have you looking and feeling your best.
1. Eat every 3 hours – Eat 6-8 smaller meals throughout the day. Your body is receiving a constant stream of nutrients and maintaining glucose levels throughout the day. Going longer than 3-4 hours puts your body into “starvation mode”, a natural response to protect itself. In starvation mode your metabolism slows down to conserve energy, your body uses lean body tissue (muscle) for fuel and stores fat. This is one reason why many people struggle to lose weight and also, as we age, lose muscle. The meals should contain protein(chicken breast ,fish, lean red meat), carbs (fruit ,veggies, rice, oatmeal) and healthy fats (raw nuts, olive oil, avocados). Stay away from sugars, processed foods and fried foods. Food should be eaten as close to it’s natural state as possible.
2. Stay Hydrated – Drinking water is vital to our health. Water prevents fatigue, aids in digestion, detoxifies the body, moisturizes the skin, prevents muscle cramps, and transports nutrients and oxygen into cells and muscles. You should be drinking at least one gallon of water a day, more if the weather is hot or you workout.
3. Don’t skip the Carbs – Eating carbs balances your mood. Carbs produce key chemicals in your brain that stabilize your mood. Carbs give you energy to get thru the day and your workouts. They also preserve and build muscle tissue, along with protein. Carbs can be tricky to figure out which to eat.  Here is my rule of thumb here in deciding whether a food is “good” or “bad” carb….where does the food come from? Food at its most natural and unprocessed state contains the most nutritional value and is considered a “good” carb. Examples are fruits and vegetables, oatmeal, yams, brown rice. Bad” carbs are mostly processed , especially those that are white and refined, such as pasta, white bread, bagels, crackers, white rice, pretzels etc contain very little nutritional value and will cause spikes in your insulin making fat loss very difficult.
4. Portion Control – Don’t think that because you are eating healthy, you can eat as much as you want. Eating too much of anything will cause weight gain, a calorie is still a calorie. So be conscious of what AND how much you are consuming.
5. Don’t skip Breakfast – This is so important and a big mistake many people make.  You are replenishing your glycogen stores and jumpstarting your metabolism for the day. A good breakfast would be oatmeal and egg whites or Greek yogurt and fruit.

So in a nutshell….eat 6-8 small meals every 2-3 hours, include lean protein, carbs, and healthy fats, remember portion control, drink a gallon of water per day, and please don’t skip breakfast. I know it can seem overwhelming but take it day by day, week by week. Slowly incorporate or change one or two things, make a plan, write it down and before you know it you will have created a new eating lifestyle.
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Dear Austin, Gracie and Zachary.

I have often thought of sitting down and writing a letter to you all, but truth be told, I never felt I could adequately put the depth of my emotions in writing. Just the thought of this letter brings a tear to my eye, and I am sure by the time I am done, the tears will be flowing freely.

 

You guys have experienced more in your young lives than most people do in half a lifetime. You had to experience the divorce of your mommy and daddy. I cannot tell you how sorry I am for putting you through that. I know how hard it was and my heart ached for each of you. What I will tell you is mommy and daddy’s divorce had absolutely nothing to do with the three of you. Sometimes parents have issues which cannot be resolved, but is not caused by you and does not diminish our love for you. I know I sound like a hypocrite, but marriage is a union between God, man and wife. When you find the love of your life, hold on and do everything you can to make it last. Never enter into marriage believing that divorce is an option if things start to get rough, because they will get rough. Marriage is not easy, but it can be worth every ounce of energy you put into making it work. Continue reading »