I have always been one of those people that tries hard to get along with everyone and needs to be liked by everyone. I was the kid that interacted with “all” the groups in school, stuck up for the kid that was getting picked on and seemed to be everyones best friend. All these years later I continue to find myself holding that position and while it is one I will always value I have come to realize that there are times it can bring challenges and divorce is no exception.
With that being said and two divorces later, I am a huge advocate for people trying to find a way to get along following the chaos divorce can bring. This is easier said than done but the gifts it can bring to everyone involved is priceless and most importantly, can bring a much better lifestyle to the kids. Divorce is hard on everyone and divorce does not just bring an ending to a marriage but can sometimes bring an end to an entire way of life.
There are many people that find themselves divorced, a single parent and stuck in a place of anger, sadness, bitterness and blame for a very long time. The result? Continued fighting and disagreements with the ex-spouse, kids in the middle and uncomfortable situations like birthday parties, graduations, weddings, funerals and holidays. This is a no-win situation for everyone and one that will stand in the way of people moving on with their lives, discovering a sense of peace and opening their hearts to all of the amazing possibilities that lie in front of them including maintaining a friendship with our ex and everyone that was a part of them. Continue reading »