10 Things That I Just Love!

 Posted by on September 17, 2010  Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting, Uncategorized  No Responses »
Sep 172010
 

God knows that being a single parent has its challenges. I so often feel like the guy who showed up for a doubles match in tennis, only to find out that his partner couldn’t make it. You better be quick on your feet and anticipate the next move if you are going to be successful.

I have written before that, in my opinion, the most difficult part of being a single parent is finding the time to get everything done. We love our children, and hopefully we are there for them. But too often we neglect our own needs in the process. I may not always be able to control my free time, but there are certain things that I can control. I have come up with a list of ten things that just make me feel good. The list is in no particular order. I hope that it will provide you with the inspiration you may need to just feel good.

  1. Listening to my kids talk about their day. I mean really listening. Face to face, eye to eye and without distractions.
  2. Getting up at 4:30 a.m. and working out.
  3. Grounding my son when he doesn’t turn in his homework. This one really makes me feel good.
  4. Braiding my daughter’s hair.
  5. Reminding my kids of how much their mother loved them, and of all the wonderful qualities they received from her.
  6. Doing something for the less fortunate on the spur of the moment.
  7. Telling my kids that I love them.
  8. Allowing them to fail and then watching with pride as they learn from it.
  9. Going to church and thanking God for this gift that he has given me.
  10. Calling an old friend just to say hi.

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Tip of the day: Do Whats Best For Your Children

 Posted by on August 31, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, Raising Children as a Single Parent, The Craziness of Single Parenting  No Responses »
Aug 312010
 

Here is another tip from my new book “Kickin’ Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have”. Now when I mention every single parent I don’t mean “single” as in sole parent, I mean tips for every parent. If you like the tips then please let all of your fellow bloggers know about this blog as well as your friends. I appreciate your support and hope that in some way these tips will bring value to you and your children.

If you want to get all 99 tips and begin to transform your life and the lives of your children please visit www.singleparentstown.com to order my book.

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A tip from Bill’s new book; “Kickin’ Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Parent Must Have”

 Posted by on August 30, 2010  Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex  No Responses »
Aug 302010
 

I thought that I would start to share with you here tips from my new book “Kickin’ Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have”. Now when I mention every single parent I don’t mean “single” as in sole parent, I mean tips for every parent. If you like the tips then please let all of your fewllow bloggers know about this blog as well as your friends. I appreciate your support and hope that in some way these tips will bring value to you and your children.

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Driving Your Car Through The Rear View Mirror

 Posted by on August 26, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order  No Responses »
Aug 262010
 

When I was much younger I seemed to have a bit of a problem avoiding the other cars. I have scratched, dented, totaled and smashed more cars than a demolition derby driver. My dad would always say that if I was in Patton’s Tank Brigade we would have lost the war. It is only through the grace of God that I am still here today. The amazing thing to me is that I wrecked all of those cars while looking forward. OK, maybe once in awhile I wasn’t totally focused on looking forward but I can honestly promise you at no time was I ever driving the car through my  rear view mirror.

It always bothers me when I talk to people that seem to be living life through their rear view mirror. You know the type. The guy who likes to say: “If only” or “Why not me”? They are living their life through their rear view mirror.

You know some of the best lesson’s we will ever learn are from our past mistakes. The error of the past is the wisdom and success of the future. Continue reading »

The Kids Were Gone For Three Weeks and I Didn’t Miss Them

 Posted by on July 16, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Taking Time for Yourself, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting, Uncategorized  No Responses »
Jul 162010
 

Well Jack and Michaela made their annual trek to Montana this summer to see their grandparents, cousins, aunt and uncles. I for the first time didn’t because I had to really focus on finishing my book “Kickin’ Butt a a Single Parent” 99 Tips Every Single Parent Must Have (available August 12th) and making a living in this difficult economy. Michaela was going to be gone for three weeks and Jack for 12 days. I have been without the kids before, but never this long. When you raise your kids 24/7 you become a close knit group. Sometimes this is good and well, sometimes this is not so good. We all have a tendency to get on each others nerves every now and then but always seem to work through it.

I have to tell you that after the first day I really didn’t miss them so much. I wondered if I should feel guilty about this or if i was just going through some sort of delayed separation syndrome. By the 5th day I still didn’t miss them. This is getting interesting now. By the 10th day I was considering asking my parents if they could stay another three weeks and you know what, I didn’t feel guilty at all:)

It’s interesting that no matter how much I love and enjoy my kids, I was really enjoying being away from them. I think that we all need some “Me Time” every once in awhile to recharge our batteries. We all need a break from our kids, and our kids need a break from us. I just hope that next summer they understand that as I send them off for eight weeks:)

I am Blessed to Have Supportive Kids

 Posted by on June 24, 2010  Balancing Work and Children, Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex, General, Getting Your New Life In Order, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Organizing, Raising Children as a Single Parent, Teenagers, The Craziness of Single Parenting, Uncategorized  No Responses »
Jun 242010
 

I think that as parents, especially single parents, we spend so much time wanting to be supportive of our kids. Maybe it’s because we only see them so often, or maybe because we worry about how being raised by a single parent might affect them later on in life.

Webster defines support as:

to bear or hold up ; serve as a foundation for.   Continue reading »

More Fathers Are Getting Custody in Divorce

 Posted by on May 14, 2010  Dealing with Divorce and Your Ex  2 Responses »
May 142010
 

I recently read an article by Lisa Belkin that I thought was very interesting and a sign of the times. The article chronicles the pendulum swing in society with regards to fathers getting primary custody of  children in divorce. Now many of you would think that as a full-time Dad I would be happy about this. I am not. I believe that all children need both parents in their lives. I also believe that they need their parents an equal amount of time. I do not buy the argument that because one parent works more than the other they should not have as much custody. I believe that if given the chance loving and involved parents would find the time to be with their children. I am proof that as a full-time single dad you can make it work if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in order to gain the big rewards.

I have copied the article below so that you can make your own decision. I would love to get your feedback so fell free to comment below or email me at bill@singledadstown.com Either way never forget that LOVE is spelt TIME….

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