Single Parents Town Blog

With great sadness, I have decided to take a break from blogging on Single Parents Town so I can focus on finishing my first book which I hope to have done by years end.

Thank you to all who have allowed my thoughts and feelings to be expressed and heard. Blogging about my life as a single parent has been truly cathartic. It’s brought me even greater joy when I have received feedback that it has helped someone too.

It’s allowed me to capture the trials and tribulations that otherwise would of just stayed in my brain and helped me to see how much I’ve grown, the challenges I’ve faced and how I’ve overcome them and how funny and interesting my life really is. Continue reading »

In my blog on October 6th, I talked about some bullying Paris is experiencing and my past bullying experiences. Well, I want to give you an update on that.

Last Saturday, we went to Paris’s soccer game where the girl who bullies her also plays on the team. I know this is so super duper wrong but I just couldn’t shake feeling anger towards the little girl. I kept telling myself, she’s only 8, she’s only 8. But every time I looked at her, all I could think about is that you are bringing hurt to my baby. She knew I was upset with her too. My response wasn’t as friendly as it normally is. It made me feel totally immature, but it’s just the way I felt.

Every break they got, Paris would come up to me and tell me that this little girl was saying this or that and even shoved her a little bit. So I asked her if she wanted me to talk to her mom who was also attending the game. She said yes, and I said to myself oh s*%t. Continue reading »

A few days ago my daughter attended who she considers to be her best friend’s birthday party. When I came to pick her up and asked her how it was, she told me that it wasn’t that good because her friend was being physically agressive with her. I felt my blood start to boil and I wanted to pull that kid aside and give her a piece of my mind.

Instead, I calmy asked Paris why she isn’t sticking up for herself and telling her how she feels? She said because she was afraid if she did that she would hurt her. My heart broke and I wanted desperately for this to not be real. My bad ass, tough, sassy, tom boyish little girl having a tough time speaking up for herself? Normally, I would keep the conversation going and try to convince her to stick up for herself. But something told me that maybe she is not emotionally mature enough to handle this one on her own. So I called her Dad and told her that we needed to seperate the girls. I expected him to tell me that I was making a big deal and to let it go. But he agreed, no questions asked.

So I told her something I’ve never told her before. I told her that her dad and I had decided that we were going to step in and take her out of a bad situation until she felt like she was ready to do that for herself. I also expected her to fight me on this, but she agreed, no questions asked. Continue reading »

Doesn’t it seem like today’s kids are wise beyond their years? Like they are little Yoda’s?

I’m still in shock when Paris says something wise or introspective. Like when she was about 4 years old and we were strolling along in the mall when out of the blue she asked, “Mommy, why do people hurt each other in the world?” Or when she made the comparision that a mother’s womb is the universe. Um, what? I’ve gotten use to it now though. Yet, I still sit in awe when she says something profound or causes me to reflect. And when I engage in the conversation, I choose to not dumb it down a whole lot. Lately though, when I attempt to explain things to her that may be more of the estoretic nature, she rolls her eyes at me. Ya, I did the same with my mom. But you just wait kid. Someday you are going to be thankful that I dropped some knowledge on ya. I’ll start selecting my dress now for your accepting the nobel peace prize speech. Hey, a mother can dream can’t she?

Aside from the wisdom that comes out of her, she has an ability to know when something seems off to her and she doesn’t hesitate to question it. That’s called trusting her gut. A little skill I taught her thank you very much. For example, she was about the same age and she had just returned home from spending some time with her dad in Kentucky. She started asking me if her classmates missed her. She asked, “Did Sophia miss me?” Not knowing if Sophia missed her but not wanting to disappoint her I said, “Yes.” She then proceeded to ask me the same question about 2 other kids of which my answer was yes, hoping she wouldn’t catch on to the fib I was telling her. She then said, “Did Jayden miss me?” Which of course, I said, “Yes.” She then squinted her little face and pointed her finger at me as if she just caught on to the lie and said, “Do you even know who Jayden is?” Dang, I was caught. I almost got away with it. I think I tried saying yes but was met with the I don’t believe you look. Can’t get away with much around this whipper snapper.

So why is it that some of our kids today seem not of this world? Well, I subscribe to the Indigo souls and Aquarian energy theories that many of the spiritualist believe. My views on certain topics are not easily accepted by everyone and I’m sure would be considered quite controversial and maybe a bit far fetched with many so I won’t stand on my soap box in this forum. But I will just say that a new humanity is making it’s way on the earth. A more evolved, loving humanity and the proof is in our kids. Ok, enough said with that. Continue reading »