Scott Deetz

Scott Deetz is a father of two young children (son Landon age 4 and daughter Scottie age 2), a college student, and commissioned salesperson. Father's day 2011 marked the end of a topsy-turvy marriage and he was thrust into the world of single parenting at the tender age of 22, where he had to adapt in a hurry. He is an aspiring author and it is his mission to share stories of triumph and heartbreak with young single parents everywhere and let them know they're not alone, and whatever life throws your way you can overcome it. His first goal is for his children to grow up and minimize the impact divorce can have on children of divorce. His second goal is to share his simplistic parenting approach with other single parents so they can have a better understanding of how to give their children the most important thing they need and can't live without, LOVE. The challenge of co-parenting a boy and a girl through a shared custody agreement has inspired him to write a book about his journey through single parenthood and how simple parenting can be when you look at the world through your children's eyes. You can follow Scott on his Facebook author page.

Victory Can Be Yours! by Scott Deetz

 Posted by on May 11, 2013  General, Getting Your New Life In Order  No Responses »
May 112013
 

Good morning friends and Happy Saturday!

Due to school, two jobs, working to get my book published, and most importantly being a father, there has not been free time for writing and I apologize for that. But today is the day I return after a near month long hiatus from the “blogosphere”.

Balancing it all and the comfort of having a stable full time job doing something I absolutely love has brought me to another realization. When a divorce becomes final it’s our chance to start digging out of a hole. “Digging out of a hole”, never a term that I’ve cared for, it’s completely backwards. Think about it. If you are standing in a hole and you keep digging you will only get deeper. The biggest mystery is that we never figure out how deep of a hole we dug until we begin to climb out of it.

So how exactly do we get out of that hole? It starts with another realization. If you sit on your butt, you will go absolutely nowhere. So first, you need to stand up and most importantly get rid of the shovel that helped you dig. Continue reading »

You Are Not Alone, There is a Light at the End of the Tunnel by Scott Deetz

 Posted by on April 6, 2013  General, Getting Your New Life In Order  2 Responses »
Apr 062013
 

There you are, stuck in the dark with your flashlight flickering on and off because its batteries are low. You’ve been trying to navigate your way through the tunnel of uncertainty for some time now. At times it is pitch black and at other times dimly lit. Since you can barely see you often stumble and fall down. Sometimes you walk into a wall and you may even walk backwards without knowing it. Sometimes you move forward confidently, thinking surely this is the way out. Other times, you have no idea where you’re going so you break down and cry.

You chose to navigate this tunnel of uncertainty because of the promise of light and complete happiness on the other side. Your time wandering through the tunnel however is one of transition and unsteadiness for you. It will test you and find out what you’re made of.

Do you have the faith to believe that someday you will make it to the other side? Continue reading »

How to Relate with Your Children to Improve Communication

 Posted by on March 30, 2013  How to Communicate with Your Kids  1 Response »
Mar 302013
 

Improving communication with your children is vitally important to being a single parent. Enjoy my video on some tips and examples of how to do this!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rIeQM_yC4AQ

See ya next Time, Continue reading »

We have March Madness. What’s Your Family Tradition? by Scott Deetz

 Posted by on March 23, 2013  General, Raising Children as a Single Parent, The Craziness of Single Parenting  3 Responses »
Mar 232013
 
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“Oh yeah Baby! What a shot! My teams gonna win Dad, and yours is gonna lose! Come on! Let’s Go Blue Team!”  Landon belts out these chants and when I hear them it puts a smile on my face. It takes me back to when I was a young boy, watching basketball with my Dad.

Three weeks ago I was flicking through the channels. I stumbled upon the Georgetown at Syracuse game. Seeing basketball was on TV, my son came racing to my side. We watched the game until halftime and then made up some snacks to munch on. When the second half started he was glued to the TV again. Was it possible that my boy loved watching basketball as much as my Dad’s son did?

Ever since I could remember, my Dad and I bonded through basketball. We’d play basketball in the driveway, in the house, and most importantly watch it on TV. Then March Madness would roll around. We would prepare for it by filling out our brackets.  It was a holiday we celebrated. We would hang out during the first rounds of the tournament and snack all day and drink pop. We would cheer and hoot and holler at all the upsets. We even made up our own term for it. We would shout “Fruit basket Upset” anytime a lower seed would knock off a titan. Continue reading »

I’d Rather Clean Up Poop Than Be Without My Children by Scott Deetz

 Posted by on March 16, 2013  Getting Your New Life In Order, Raising Children as a Single Parent, The Craziness of Single Parenting  No Responses »
Mar 162013
 

Silence sets in. The sounds of little voices and happy giggles no longer fill my car. I look in the rearview at their empty car seats and my eyes begin to well up. It’s going to be a long week without them. Saying goodbye to my children for a whole week is the result of choices I’ve made. Questions arise and self-doubt creeps in.

“Did I do the right thing by ending it?”
“Could I have done anything differently?”
“How are my kids handling everything?”

There’s an emotional storm brewing on the horizon. No matter how upbeat or positive you are, the days that your children are with their mother are some of the most challenging you will face as a single father. I’d take the wall drawings, spilled box of cheerios, stepping on hot wheels cars, wetting the bed, watching Dora and Thomas 400 times, and even temper tantrums over the emptiness and loneliness I feel when the kids are not around. Continue reading »

Why Stability Will Help Pull You Through by Scott Deetz

 Posted by on March 9, 2013  General, Getting Your New Life In Order  No Responses »
Mar 092013
 
Over the past few weeks several readers and friends have asked me about the possibility of sharing some excerpts from my upcoming book. Today, I am pleased to share my first excerpt from the book. Below is an excerpt from my book “S.I.M.P.L.E. Love” Enjoy!

The following excerpt talks about my first days as a single parent and how I used stability to help pull me through. Continue reading »

Have you tapped into your child’s imagination lately? By Scott Deetz

 Posted by on March 2, 2013  General, How to Communicate with Your Kids, Raising Children as a Single Parent, The Craziness of Single Parenting  No Responses »
Mar 022013
 

Quote about imagination

 

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