Feb 222012

Women and “sisterhood” are not always synonomous. Sadly, women can often be categorized as “catty”, “messy”, or “hen-pecks”. Before we, as women, can learn to arise and awaken our spirits to be all God has called us to be — the best moms, the best friends, the best workers — we must first learn to embrace sisterhood.

For far too long, women have spent meaningless, wasted time bickering, name-calling, and pursuing personal I-gotta-always-be-right vendettas. Once we let all that go, we learn to come alongside one another. The truth is, it is sometimes far easier to talk about the ugly outfit the girl next to you is wearing than it is to address the ugly on the inside of us.

Caution: Stop comparing yourself to others. It only births insecurities that make it almost impossible for you befriend others. You were created perfectly for what you have been put on this earth to do. As you cease comparison, you enter a place of complete peace, where you then can build meaningful relationships with other women. Continue reading »

Feb 202012


So often I hear from people who want to make a change in their life but are either afraid, or unwilling to take the first step. What is it that keeps people from making a change? Is it that they fear the unknown? Is it that they believe that the sacrifice is greater than the reward? Or is just that they enjoy wallowing in their own unhappiness? No matter what the reason, or excuse that they use, they continue to live in a state of unhappiness, despair and self grief. Well today I am going to change that for you. Today I am going to give your three small things to do that I guarantee will change your life. Not one of these things will require you to lose weight, get up early, or make a drastic change in your life, but if done twice a day for the next 21 days they Will Change Your Life. Are you ready to take the challenge?

Here is the deal. Getting out of a bad relationship, working out, losing weight, dealing with your kids, getting a new job, changing your financial picture and finding happiness come from one place, and only one place YOUR MIND. You first must believe in it in order to achieve it. Below are three things that I challenge you today to say to yourself each morning when you get up, and each evening when you go to bed. I challenge you to not just recite them but to believe in them. Say them with conviction, say them with intention and say them as if they are the three most important things you will ever tell yourself. Once you do they will become part of your mind set, your being and your future. Continue reading »

Feb 182012

This week I began my diet and prep for competition season. As I begin, I think about the struggles I will have, the obstacles I will face but most importantly the journey I will take. Many people ask me why I do it? How do I get thrpough the workouts or stick to the diet? The only answer I have is… BECAUSE I CAN. We all have dreams of what we want to do or become in life. And, by the way, you are never too old to set new goals and dream new dreams. By not taking actions and moving in the direction of your dreams, how will you know what you are capable of? Whatever your dream is, whatever you want to become. If you want something bad enough you will find a way, otherwise your life will be full of excuses. You will do whatever it takes to make it happen and start living your dreams. For me it will be eating cold, dry ,maybe slightly burnt or undercooked chicken and rice out of a plastic bag for months, eating the exact same food day after day after day, getting up at 5 a.m. to get in the first round of cardio before breakfast. And those aren’t even my challenges. My challenges will be finding the energy to get through long workouts, fighting off cravings which hit hard and quick like a blow from Mike Tyson, and my biggest obstacle is fighting those demons that run around everyone’s head…the self doubt. I know I am stronger than any of the “voices” in my head, stronger than any cupcake cravings, and much stronger than people around me telling me I can’t do it. My point is, if we go through life always afraid of facing the obstacles and challenges where will we end up? Will you be happy? Will you say, “I wish I would have?” Or will you say, “I DID IT”. Step outside your comfort zone, start living the life of your dreams with no regrets. It’s not about the destination, it’s about what it took to get there and who you become along the way. Which paths we take, what we look back on, and what we look forward to is up to us. We determine our destination, what kind of road we will take to get there, and how happy we are!

So ,over the next months, my purse will be replaced with a cooler, I will spend more time at the gym than at home, I will accessorize with a gallon jug of water and clear heels will be my new best friend. And I will embrace every single minute of if…BECAUSE I CAN
Where will your path lead you?

Feb 152012

We have all heard, “When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.”  But how do you do that?  Parenting struggles, money woes, or business concerns will surely rear their ugly head from time to time. 

As I embark upon those difficult tasks of parenting or managing money (or any of the dozens of other things we all face), I try to be positive, asking myself questions such as, “What can I learn from this?”  or “How will this make me better?” I have learned that my negative attitude towards the situation does nothing to improve it.  And in the process, I’ve learned to make lemonade.

Here’s what I’ve learned about making lemonade: Continue reading »

Feb 142012

As yet another Valentines Day is upon us I was thinking about LOVE and how it is truly the thing in life that matters the most. LOVE is powerful and it is something that everyone wants and everyone needs. LOVE is a risk. LOVE is irrational. LOVE is beautiful. LOVE is intoxicating. LOVE is simple yet so complex. LOVE is amazing. LOVE is confusing. LOVE can bring even the strongest to their knees and can lead people to do things they would normally not do. LOVE is one of the most extraordinary feelings in the world. LOVE is unforgettable. LOVE is messy. LOVE is perfect. LOVE is imperfect. LOVE brings peace.  LOVE is unpredictable. LOVE hurts. In the end LOVE is like a box of chocolates – you never know what you are going to get.

Most people have been in love at least once in their lives and for some it has been several times. Most have had their hearts broken and most have broken someone’s heart. Regardless of having loved and having suffered a broken heart people are still drawn to the allure of all that a relationship can bring and to love. It is a feeling like no other and one that is desperately missed when it is lost or gone. Humans need to be loved and in all honesty we have the need to love right back and so it is no surprise that we struggle when we break up with someone, a relationship falls apart, we fall out of love, we have been hurt or we find ourselves alone. We are meant to share our lives with others and somehow we do not feel whole or complete when we are walking the journey without a partner.

I have been in love more than once, have broken a few hearts and have certainly had my heart broken and as much as love has sometimes hurt I can honestly say I would rather have loved and been hurt than to never have loved at all. With that being said, it can be incredibly difficult to find the courage to take the risk and find love again when one has been hurt. We all go into relationships with our hearts open ready to dig into that “box of chocolates” believing that we are going to enjoy every moment and having faith that this could be the one. However, love is truly like a box of chocolates. Once we get past the beautifully wrapped box and open it up we do not always know what we will find inside and you never know for sure what you are going to get. That can be scary and leaves most of us feeling vulnerable. I have been there but on this Valentine’s Day there are a few thoughts about that box of chocolates I would like to share….. Continue reading »

Feb 132012

My daughter Michaela is a very gifted writer. One year ago I posted this blog that she wrtote for her high school newspaper. It is interesting how a 15 year old high school girl views Valentines Day. I think she needs a boyfriend:)  May all of you have a Valentines Day filled with love for the ones you love the most.

On Valentine’s Day, you’re likely to be walking through the hallways, practically smelling romance in the air. You can look over and see giggling girls putting teddy bears, chocolates and flowers into their lockers while hugging their boyfriends with a big “thank you!” You can look the other way and see happy couples with no presents to exchange, and yet they are as content as everyone else.

            These are situations we’ve all seen plenty of times. We’ve all grown up with Valentine’s Day once a year, and whether or not we’re in a relationship we’re aware when it comes around. Flower prices go way up and the mall is a frenzy of nervous boyfriends trying to find the perfect piece of jewelry for their significant other. These couples contribute to the clichéd holiday of Valentine’s Day. Continue reading »

Feb 102012

Anyone who has ever read one of my blogs, knows how important I believe routine is in raising healthy children.  While I believe a stable routine is good for children, it can sometimes be unhealthy for parents.  Parents, especially single parents often find themselves stuck in a monotonous and tedious routine completely revolving around their children.  Don’t get me wrong,  monotony is not a word I word ever use to describe parenting, but our routine can become just that.

We wake up each morning and then get the kids up.  We get the kids ready for school and ourselves ready for work.  We make breakfast.  We get the kids off to school and then it’s off to work for us.  We pick the kids up from school after our work day is done.  We help with homework, cook dinner, get the kids bathed and ready for bed, tuck them in and then it’s off to bed for us.  If we are blessed, we wake up the next morning and do it all over again.  Sounds like an adrenaline junkies dream, doesn’t it?? Continue reading »