It’s okay…neither did I.
Who knew a little nugget in a conversation of questions can be the most amazing revelation. I have found one more piece of my puzzle. As I reflected on my past, my present, and what I desire so much for my future, I realized this is information that we all need. These are questions we must ask ourselves and answer them. When we expose what is hiding, we crack it and the light has to come shining through.
I am also aware of how this will form the lives of my children and by sharing this knowledge with them, they can be set free of this force (bondage) long before I did.
Wow…they are so lucky to have such an aware mom! ;)
A few weeks ago my dear friend Taryn insisted that I join a 4 Week Tele-Course given by the founder of www.thedailylove.com, Mastin Kipp called Love Uni-versity. I really didn’t know too much about him. I saw him Skype in on one of Oprah’s Life Classes and I know Taryn is over the moon with this guy and his message so I thought, why not? I have nothing else to do on Monday at 4 p.m. PST.
All I can say is…OH MY GOSH! HOLY MOLY! BACK UP THE TRAIN AND LET ME GET ON! I have learned so much in the first two calls but the one thing that resonated most with me were three questions that Mastin asked his callers.
Here they are…
I hope you are ready to answer them. I am happy to share my answers with you. Hell – why not – I seem to share it all.
You will have an ‘a-ha!’ moment for sure. I know I did. And by the way…as you answer these questions, think about how your kids would answer.
1. As a child who did you work the most to get LOVE and APPROVAL from…MOM or DAD?
My answer: My Dad.
2. Who did you have to be to get this LOVE and APPROVAL?
My answer: Cute, careful, and occasionally funny.
3. Who could you not be around this parent?
My answer: Outspoken, free, open, too happy or excited, energetic, opinionated, strong, confident, and honest.
Anyone who knows me well has seen me be ALL of these things. When I am free and secure in myself and the situation I am in whether it be love, friendship, business, etc. I am all the traits of number 3. But, when LOVE and APPROVAL is threatened I turn to the actions of number 2. Another way to say it, when we are in LOVE and APPROVAL of ourselves and knowing everything works out and we are never alone, we choose the actions that move us forward (#3 answers). When we are in FEAR and think / believe we are going to lose something…the love of another, our health, our job, our livelihood, etc. we fall into the actions that keep us stuck (#2 answers).
Needless to say, this isn’t about picking on our parents or picking on ourselves as parents. No one needs to be obsessing about how they have damaged their kids up to this point. Too late, we all have. 
This is about understanding the puzzle of our lives and how we can put it together. I feel like I just found one more piece of mine.
Can you find another piece of yours today?
Until next week….
Davis.
Davis Ehrler, Infant/Child Sleep Consultant, Parenting Coach, and creator of The 3 Day Sleep Solution has been assisting parents in creating healthy sleep, healthy eating, and effective discipline with their children for almost 10 years. She can be found at 3daysleepsolution.com, 3daysleep.com, twitter: 3daysleepdavis, Facebook: The 3 Day Sleep Solution