A Letter to My Friend…

My Beautiful Friend,

We just finished a long conversation but I felt like I needed to say more.

Let me tell you what I see…

You are a beautiful woman who after taking a stand some time ago to make her life better is thinking twice because she is without a man right now. It is something so many of us women struggle with…needing a man’s attention and validation. Being a single woman is like a curse, so it seems. As I sat and listened to you question everything about yourself, I thought it might be good to remind you of where you have been and what you have accomplished.

You are a wonderful daughter and sister. You came from a family where everyone took care of each other and from parents who lived and died by their children. They worked hard to give you all the best. You have a wonderful relationship with them. They love you!  You have not let them down because you are divorced.

You moved out of your parent’s house to marry. You had children. You put everything you had into the relationship only wanting the best for your new family. But it changed you when you let the strong woman be treated like a dependent. He made all the decisions whether it be the washing machine you would use to the car you would drive. That was fine because you weren’t working, right? Wrong! You became quiet because you were ‘lucky’ to have a man who bought you a car and a wash machine. You never complained and you never told him what you wanted. But he told you what he wanted….

He told you with his temper tantrums, his over controlling behaviors, his trips with the boys anytime he wanted, and his overall disrespect for his wife.  But you stayed because there was something in you who thought this is what you deserved. You were wrong!

You finally left him when you found someone who you thought would treat you better. Someone who was, “hotter!” And he may have been but what did he do? He let you take care of him as if he was a child and you let it happen because you had to feel the guilt of leaving a husband and didn’t want to fail again.  As I listened to your story I had to stop and think….this is what the majority of freshly divorced and single people must go through especially if they are the one who left the relationship. It is almost as if you were saying, “I’m the one who left so I deserve to be miserable.”  Wrong! Wrong! Wrong!

So my beautiful friend, I don’t care if you left the marriage or you were forced to leave the marriage…you are here to be better! You DESERVE a partner who treats you like you are the best thing since sliced bread. Someone who wants to be kind and take care of you. You are NOT going to find that in younger ’hotty’. Stop being afraid of getting older! You are amazing….You are beautiful…and now it is time for you to grow up and be the woman you are meant to be!

Have a great day my divorced single friend! Let’s get together soon.

Davis

You can find Davis at: www.3daysleepsolution.com, davis@3daysleepsolution.com, http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/profile.php?id=762429729, and twitter: 3daysleepdavis