“Never allow someone to be your priority, while you’re just their option”.
I recently posted this saying on my Facebook page and to my surprise got quite the response from people. It seems that at one time or another we have all been guilty of making someone our priority, when we were just their option.
I am sure that so many of you who are divorced feel this way, after all it is usually the one who has had enough of making everyone else their priority, without feeling appreciated themselves, that finally says enough and files for divorce. There are also those out there who are such constant caregivers that they always seem to find themselves making everyone else their priority, while they are just someone else’s option. Sound familiar to any of you? How about the person who divorces, and after the proper amount of time decides to date again, only to find themselves in need of attention and comfort so bad, that they once again “make someone their priority, while they only make them their option”.
What is it that drives so many people to this unhealthy and never ending cycle of frustration and pain? What is that blinds people to the obvious? Why can’t they see the forest through the trees or their nose in spite of their face? Why would you want to ever make someone else your priority when they only make you their option?
I believe that we are all a product of our own circumstances, our own past, our own doing but most of all our own perception of who we are. You see more times than not when we put everyone else first, when we make so many others our priority, we forget about making ourselves a priority. We unfortunately seem to forget that if we don’t make ourselves a priority, we will never be able to truly see when other are making us an option.
We have been taught our whole life to look out for others, help our fellow man (and woman), and be there for our friends and family. As much as I agree with this, we must first and foremost make ourselves a priority. How can you truly find your happiness, your strength, your peace, your joy and your dreams if you are always putting everyone else first? You can’t… There is nothing wrong with making yourself a priority. In fact I believe if you don’t make yourself a priority you are going to find yourself once again making someone else a priority, while you are just their option.
Today I want to share with you some recent posts from my Facebook page that I believe when committed to memory, will remind you that you can be a priority, should be a priority and deserve to be a priority. If you do nothing else after reading this blog please commit at least one of these sayings to memory, and repeat it every morning you wake up and every evening before you go to bed. Once you do I promise you that you will never again: “Allow someone to be your priority, while you’re just their option”.
“Your future will always depend on what you do in the present”
“No one is in charge of your happiness except you”
”It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.”
”Troubles are like babies, they grow larger by nursing them”
”Defeat may test you, but it need not stop you. If at first you don’t succeed, try another way. For every obstacle there is a solution. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. The greatest mistake is giving up.”
”If God had wanted you to be someone else, he would have created you to be someone else. The good news for you is that he wants you to be YOU, so enjoy it, embrace it and be proud of who you are because…. God is proud of YOU”.
”If you never fall you won’t know how to pick yourself up.”
”This life is a gift to yourself, Open it”
”Some people grin and bear it; others smile and do it”
”Someday is not a day of the week”
“You can not start to become someone new, until you stop being someone old”.
Bill McLeod is the founder of www.singleparentstown.com The author of “Kickin Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have” and a Life Coach to Single Parentswww.billmcleodcoaching.com . He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.orgYou can also follow Bill on Facebook and Twitter under Bill McLeod