Single Parents Town Blog

Recently I wrote a quote that said, “People that throw the biggest stones of judgement often times have the biggest boulder sitting on their own home. Remember, everyone has a past and until we can truly walk in another’s shoes no one should be casting a stone anywhere. Don’t judge but instead try to understand, forgive, learn and grow. Walking in another’s shoes without throwing stones can bring more wisdom than ever imagined…”

It is human nature to judge situations and others throughout life and I would venture to guess that we all do it on occasion without even realizing it. Then there are those times when judging becomes a way of life for some and it can sprinkle negativity everywhere we go. It can be as simple as judging a person for how they look or what they are wearing to casting judgement for a bad choice or mistake someone has made. Judging others can lead to labeling, name calling, vengeance, blame, anger, hatred and an inability to forgive. Judging can sometimes mask our ability to have empathy for others and can stand in the way of considering what could be a far bigger picture to a situation or person’s life. Judging can at times point to the very things we ourselves struggle with while we are busy pointing the finger at someone else.

What I have come to realize in this journey is that judging is a quick trip to nowhere. I truly believe that often times it is the people that judge the most and cast the biggest stones that have the biggest boulder sitting on their own home. It is when we can be honest with ourselves and recognize those boulders that rest on top of our own homes that we can then learn to be more forgiving of others and not be so judgmental. Every person has a past and unfortunately, most people have something that lies within their past that they struggle with, regret, have come to deny or have preferred others didn’t know. We ourselves fear being judged and there are sometimes things that we work very hard to hide or parts of ourselves that we bury wanting to forget and yet we find hard to forgive. Continue reading »

Being a single parent means dating and relationships. It means putting yourself out there again into the dating game. It means you have been there – done that. You have most likely dated some great people, even married a great person only to see it end for one reason or another. You have definitely dated and maybe even married someone whom may have been a bit unsavory. And…it ended for good reasons.

Either way, we have all lived, hopefully learned, and have a much better idea of what we want in a mate.

I know I do. But I obviously needed to hear how important a list is. Continue reading »

Sometimes it is out of the ruins that the most powerful wave of transformation begins. Have faith that you can rise above anything, rebuild and stand in a stronger foundation than ever before. Welcome the ruins and ride the wave…..Michele DeVille

Recently, tornadoes and horrific storms have ravaged towns across the South and Midwest destroying everything in its path and leaving entire areas in ruins. Add to that, the devastation of earthquakes and tsunamis. Mother nature has continued to strike with a vengeance and my heart goes out to the people and the loss they have endured. What strikes me most when disaster strikes is how amazing the human spirit is and how resilient people are. Cities have been destroyed and left in ruins for centuries and yet with courage, strength and faith cities can be rebuilt.

Thinking about this whole concept helped me to remember that we all have what it takes to survive and rise above anything. There are times when regardless of the reason we feel like our lives are in ruins and it can leave us feeling helpless, overwhelmed and our faith can be tested. I have been in this place more than once but I can honestly say that I have learned that just as my quote says, it is out of those ruins that some of my most powerful transformation has occurred. Continue reading »