Spring break is upon us! Yippee our kids scream, no more getting up early, no more homework and no more worries for at least the next week. Spring break is that time of year where the kids rejoice, and we parents are put in a very precarious position of deciding what to do with them? Many parents are blessed to be in the position of taking their kids on a cruise, or to some exotic destination like Hawaii or Mexico. Some parents are even brave enough to send their kids off on their own, believing that their little Suzy or Tommy will be well behaved, responsible and do what is right. Are you serious? If your lucky the tattoo they get wont be to obvious, the beer and jello shots will have been left behind on the floor of their hotel room under four towels, and hopefully they won’t tell you that they fell in love with Julio, and are moving to Mexico to find themselves.

For many parents, especially single parents, spring break can be a difficult time of year. Many parents can not afford an expensive spring break, and others have a tough time getting time off from their jobs. Recently I was asked by Channel 2 and the “Every Day Show” here is Denver to record a series of ideas for parents in just such a position. Below are some ideas for all of you parents on a budget, or just having difficulty getting time off. I would love to hear from you what your ideas are as well….

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Henley’s New Life!

First, let me tell you that I appreciate everything about you. You are really a great person. We could spend all day talking about how happy you are and I love it. I love how laid back you are and funny. I love that you are open and enjoy life. But we have things to look at and make better because life is waiting.

In light of the latest progress report and the years of battling the lack of responsibility and follow through, I have decided that something must be done.

I have two choices here: I could just hand it over to Henley and say, “You are almost 17. This is your life and if you want to make your own choices…go for it.” Or I can remember that I am responsible for preparing you for the big world and I have until you are 18 years old to do it. I have chosen to not give up on preparing you for the world. Continue reading »

 

We are told from the time we are born that what is most important is on the inside.  “Pretty is as pretty does.”  I can remember an older relative saying to me.  But, if that is true, why is it also that we hear from such a young age, “Isn’t she beautiful?  Look at those gorgeous brown eyes!” 

We recently held a Night of Beauty at our local church for single moms.  We had hundreds to show up and receive free hand treatments, makeovers, spa gift certificates, and free high-end perfume.  We also prepared a free meal and childcare for the event.  It was truly a blessing for many of the women.  And although we were pampering their outside appearances, we were able to tie in an important message about true beauty.

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Have you ever had one of those days where you feel like no matter what you do or how hard you try it feels as if nothing goes right and every single door you try to walk through slams in your face? I know I have and today was one of them.  I came home feeling frustrated, discouraged and in all honesty I wanted to hang a sign on my own “door” saying closed for business. 

With that being said I felt sorry for myself for a bit, shed a tear or two and then picked myself back up and did what I typically do: adjusted my attitude and put one foot in front of the other.  I have learned that life will slam doors and probably more often than any one of us would like.  Doors will slam at the worst of times and there will be days that it feels like every single door we try is closed, locked and there are no keys to be found. With that being said, I have come to believe that those doors close for a reason and sometimes it is a blessing in disguise.

Keep in mind that there are times when a door closes and in the end we come to realize that it was the best possible thing that could have happened.  How many times have you been blessed with an amazing opportunity because something else did not work out?  I believe that some doors close because another one is supposed to open leading us to bigger and better things.  It may not always feel like a positive at the time but in the end we often gain a new perspective and a better understanding of  the “why”.  Continue reading »

 

What have I been doing with my life? I always thought that life was suppose to teach me things each and every step of the way. As a young boy I attended school every day because I was told that it would teach me things that I didn’t already know. I graduated from college thinking that I would be wiser from the experience. I have tried and failed on my own for what seems like forever, because I was told that life lessons are invaluable. Imagine my surprise when I finally realized that “Everything I Need To Know About Life I learned In The Last 60 Days”! . Here are the things that I have learned about life over the past 60 days.

* Hard work does pay off.

* Time spent by yourself is the best way to reflect upon what’s important to you, and only you. It’s also a great way to calm your mind. Continue reading »

 

“You must do the thing you think you cannot do” Continue reading »

 

I am in LOVE with the Biggest Loser. It is my one reality show indulgence and has been since the show started. I like Jillian. I am in love with Bob! It is the only reality show that actually changes people for the good. It is the one show that takes a person from being codependent to be independent. I like that.

 But that is the process and that  is the  show in itself especially when they have The Biggest Loser Couples. It is the ultimate ‘bring your codependent partner with you’ show. Where there is an overweight person there is one or more co dependent people. No one wants to accept that being obese (not overweight) is an addiction! Where there is an obese person, there is a codependent person or people encouraging this behavior. There is no exception to this rule. And here we are in season 11 and there are more parent/child couples than ever. The ultimate codependency is running rampant and it just isn’t good.

As I watched the Biggest Loser last week I could not believe at the gross display of the co-dependent parenting that was going on. It was unbelievable but made perfect sense. I’ve lived it and thought about how many of us are still codependent parenting. Are you? Continue reading »