So my blog last week I Think I’m Going To Be Single For Awhile…seemed to stir up a few comments from many of you. More than one person emailed, called or texted me with their thoughts about it. Half the people said “Well there goes some of your readers” and the other half said “Bill you just issued a challenge”. My daughter said “Dad you have commitment issues”. First I am sure that I did not lose many of my readers, and fortunately or unfortunately, no one has yet challenged me. In fairness to Michaela I decided to look up the definition of commitment issues. Wikipedia describes “The Fear of Commitment” as:
Fear of commitment in much popular literature refers to avoidance of long-term partnership and/or marriage but the problem is often much more pervasive, affecting school, work, and home life as well.
I don’t have any commitment issues. At one time I was committed to my marriage and my past relationships. I am committed to my children, my friends and my passions. I am committed to helping single parents succeed, my website, my future coaching program and webinars. I am committed to being honest, ambitious, positive and a good role model. I am committed to my beliefs, working out at the gym every day and believing in myself. I am even committed to believing that the right person will come into my life again. I don’t have any commitment issues! What I have are time management issues!
Anyone who raises kids on their own knows exactly what I am talking about. Relationships require time and commitment. Committment I got, time I got less of. I was once asked what was the most difficult part of raising children on my own? Is it being the mom and the dad at the same time? Is it paying all of the bills by myself? Is it having to do it all with very little help? No, the most difficult part of raising children on my own is not having very much free time. Ask any single parent with young children what it is they would most like to have more of and they will all tell you more free time. In order to find your soul mate you need to have the time to do it. I’m starting to think that I have to make a commitment to make more time…
Bill McLeod is the founder of www.singleparentstown.com and author of “Kickin Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have” He can be reached at bill@singleparentstown.com
Yup, time management and priority issues. My kids are only this age once…
Lisa
Not sure if it's time management issues or just not enough hours in the day to do what we have to do and what we want to do.