A recent George Will column, “Lost In Electronica,” started me  thinking about how often kids says they’re bored. “Are you kidding me,” said in my best Robert DeNiro accent!  If anything, I find there aren’t enough hours in the day for me to begin to do all that I want to do.

But, it’s evidently a fact that many in this current generation are often bored, even with all that is available at their fingertips.  Of course, every child doesn’t have access to all our current high-tech devices, but most libraries do have computer “labs.”  Why is boredom more prevalent today?  My first answer is MTV.  Yes, MTV, which if you’ve forgotten stands for “Music Television.”  When it began, in August of 1981, it ushered in a whole new world of fast-cutting short videos.

Until MTV, most videos that our children saw were in the form of television programs–1/2-hour sitcoms and 1-hour dramas–and movies which were anywhere from about 80 minutes, on the shorter side (usually comedies and animated films), to close to three-hours for the epics (like “Titanic”). MTV changed all that by providing little mini-movies, the length of songs, that were also produced and edited in a brand-new style–fast-cutting imagery in which the camera almost never lingered on one image for long. Continue reading »

 

When I was a child “Black Friday” represented that time each night, when the lights went out, and I had to go to bed. When I was in high school “Black Friday” represented the day that my report card came home ( I was a 2.something GPA kid). When I was in my twenty’s “Black Friday” represented the next day at work, after coming in from the night before at 1:30 am. Now that I am a dad to a fourteen year old “Black Friday” has taken on a  brand new meaning.

Last week my daughter asked me if  I would go to “Black Friday” with her? Why not, I don’t mind getting up at 6:30 a.m. to spend some quality time with Michaela. Then she informed me that we would be getting up at 4:00 a.m. What? “Only the crazy people get up at 4:00 a.m. to shop” I said. “No way Dad”, in order to get the best deals we need to be there no later than 4:20. “Alright honey lets do it” I said.

Well Friday morning came and Michaela handed me a folder detailing our agenda for the day. She had every store that we would be going to listed, coupons for each store, what I was required to get at each store, and believe it or not, the floor plan of each store. Needless to say she is a bit organized. We started out at Super Target. My first thought was who in their right mind would go to Super Target at 4:00 am. Don’t most “Black Friday” shoppers go to the mall or some electronics store? At least those are the videos I see each year on TV of the the ensuing chaos that accompanies “Black Friday”. How wrong was I? When we arrived at 4:20 a.m. there was not one shopping cart left in the entire store. Luckily for me my only job was to find the “Vampire Diaries Collection” at 75% off.  Fortunately, this did not require a shopping cart. Unfortunately, Michael’s list did require a shopping cart, so there I am at 4:35 a.m. following shoppers out to their car to get their cart from them and head back in to meet Michaela. One thing that I learned about shoppers on “Black Friday” is that, although they may show up in slippers and PJ’s, do not underestimate their resolve. There is nothing scarier than a woman hopped up on coffee and Red Bull, coupon’s in hand, and a shopping cart without brakes headed right for you. I can personally attest to the fact ,that you are best served to stay out of the thier way,  and concede the last I-Pod to them. If you don’t, I guarantee that  you are going to get ran over. Continue reading »

 

A Thanksgiving tale (my little annual Thanksgiving story poking fun at self)

Posted by PatrickTalley

“the best laid plans”"pride goeth before the fall”"practice makes perfect”…

… you pick the message outta this story… Continue reading »

 

It is the Sunday after another joyous Thanksgiving and I can openly admit that another year has passed by without yours truly making a turkey.  The truth is that at age 47 I have NEVER made a turkey and would not even know where to begin.   I am a bit embarrassed to say that being a mom and all but then again, my strengths have never been in the kitchen and my kids know it.

I know so many people that absolutely love decorating for the Thanksgiving holiday, buying all the groceries for that fabulous Thanksgiving dinner, cooking all day,  baking a delicious pumpkin pie and hosting family and friends.  I admire every single one of them and at times wish I was doing the same.  However, I have never been one to cook much or bake nor do I thrive on decorating.  As a single mom I have felt guilty at times falling prey to the guilt that I SHOULD be doing all of those things and more but I know in my heart that the world goes around because we are all individuals and it is impossible for everyone to be alike.

Everyone has strengths and while mine do not fall into the culinary or decorating arts I know that I too have my own.  Being a parent does not come with an instruction manual nor does it come with any guarantees that necessarily promise becoming a great chef, making halloween costumes or baking home made cookies.  I do make an effort to create holiday tradition for my children in my own way and for me, my promise comes with an endless supply of love, lots of hugs, laughter, my quirky silliness and a few little things that have become our family traditions along the way. Continue reading »

 

Ronan Tynan – do you know him?

I didn’t, until a few years ago.  I heard this “motivational” speaker at a company function.

When they announced him I sort of rolled my eyes…

thinking what now. Continue reading »

 

As single parents we always hear about the importance of making new traditions. This year, consider making this new tradition: Only pay cash for things during the holidays.

I started this “tradition” quite a few years ago. I call it my Cash Christmas. I might have gotten the idea from Suze Orman, I can’t remember. Evidently, it is a popular idea. Daily Worth reports that a whopping 70% of people surveyed said the were going to follow this idea. Continue reading »

 

I thought all week about how my blog should be about Thanksgiving on some level because it will be posted on…Thanksgiving. Then I thought about how everyone is being bombarded with a Thanksgiving message of some sort and it does get old. You know it too. I am not a big holiday person. I think if we are thankful and giving everyday, why do we need these big holidays that cause pain, strife, and gorging for people. After all, the holiday season is when we gain at least 10 pounds and has the highest incidence of suicide. Clearly, something is not jiving. And…it really is all about marketing but that is just my opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I do play along as I sit here writing my blog as my eggs are boiling, my cheese cake is baking, and my turkey is marinading.

With all that being said, I came up with my topic for this week while I was cleaning house. I have my best epiphanies during this dreaded activity. I was thinking about how out of sorts I have been lately and feeling a bit defeated. I also thought about other couples in my life where one has been able to move on and the other…not so much…even after many years (see below). That led me to people just being upset with people in general and it came down to what I have learned over and over…there is no upset without blame! Darn it all!

As most of us reading this blog are single parents, we have a past with a husband, wife, or a former relationship of some sort, we have all experienced major upset that may have subsided by now or may be still seething in us each day. If it is still seething you are still blaming. Try it on if you don’t believe me. It is impossible to explain upset without saying, “because.” Whomever sits behind the ‘because’ is who you are blaming. It’s time to let it go. Continue reading »