Wake up can’t you see, can’t you see that big tree
So call me for that key so turn around and look at me
And don’t get stung by that bee and
Aren’t you happy about that smoothie and
Don’t bump into that tree and
Don’t step in that creek and
Eat some greek food and go to sleep
And then wake up and peek your eyes over the sheets and
Maybe your mom will give you some sweets
Creek and peek in your dads room and
See what’s he’s up to
Maybe he tweets

Single mom, organizing and productivity expert, Tracy Paye has been transforming spaces into livable and lovable environments since the age of 12. Tracy’s passion is to help people experience freedom from their internal and external clutter, creating a refreshing sense of satisfaction for a more enjoyable & stress free life! Through hands on organizing, coaching, consulting, speaking engagements, media appearances, and writing Tracy has positively impacted countless number of lives by inspiring, empowering and motivating people to take action and take back control of their lives. She specializes in working with people living with ADD/ADHD and helps families develop coping strategies. If you are interested in learning more about Tracy’s organizing services you can visit her at www.tracypaye.com. You can also follow her on Twitter www.twitter.com/missorganized.

 

Since I’m writing to a group of single parents, I figured we needed to go ahead and put this one out there – OFFENSE.  Man, oh man, how I sprint to avoid bitter and offended folks!  Let me give you a news flash.  Your hurt, your offense, your bitterness, your unforgivness does nothing to THEIR lives.  It does not hurt your ex-mother-in-law, your ex-husband, or your ex-boyfriend.  In fact, they’ve probably forgotten what they did to offend you in the first place.

In having counseled literally hundreds of single moms, I can tell you that I have never sat with one mom who didn’t have a reason to be angry or hurt – not one.  They all have a story.  We all have a story. 

I was astonished to recently stumble upon a single parent’s site that promoted “Tell-us-why-you-hate-your-baby’s-daddy Day”.  Are you kidding me?!  Am I the only one that sees the insanity in this?!  What do you hope to accomplish?  So…………..we paint little George’s daddy as a complete loser for not paying you child support or for beating you or whatever (albeit horrible things), then………. what?  Who does it hurt?  Let me answer this for you.  YOU.  It hurts you.  For every time you relive the pain and revisit the conversations or the events that devastated you, you live in that moment.   It’s amazing that we sometimes cannot remember where we parked after a 15-minute grocery trip to Walmart, but we can remember for the next 15 years the exact conversation where someone offended us! Continue reading »