I thought that I would start to share with you here tips from my new book “Kickin’ Butt as a Single Parent – 99 Tips That Every Single Parent Must Have”. Now when I mention every single parent I don’t mean “single” as in sole parent, I mean tips for every parent. If you like the tips then please let all of your fewllow bloggers know about this blog as well as your friends. I appreciate your support and hope that in some way these tips will bring value to you and your children.
Tip 2: Be honorable about your ex.
Never ever bad mouth or speak disparaging about your
ex in front of your kids. Sure, we all feel that we need to
vent every once in awhile, but do it in private, do it with
your friends, do it on the mountain top, but never in
front of your kids. If you bad mouth your ex, your words
will come back to haunt you…I guarantee it. I assure you
that there were so many times with my wife that I wanted
to let my kids know what was really going on, but I chose
not to. Kids will always love both their parents. After all,
they are all part of the same gene pool. Remember that
you are the adult, you are the parent, you are the one
that is modeling for your children. Would you like it if,
every time you upset your kids, they ran off to school and
told everyone what a jerk you were? Of course not. Keep
your feelings about the ex to yourself. Point out the
positive attributes that the other parent has. After all, by
striking out at the other parent in front of your kids, you
are striking out at their gene pool. They will remember
that for a long time to come. Each day you are making
deposits into the memory bank of your child. Make
deposits that will provide you with a wonderful return.
Action Step:
Today make sure that you say one nice thing about your
ex spouse to your children. Remind them of the positive
qualities that your ex has passed on to your children.
