Voices In Your Head

 Posted by Lisa on June 25, 2010  General  2 Responses »
Jun 252010
 

There are voices in your head. And mine. Everyone’s. I consider myself a positive person so imagine my dismay at how many negative voices I heard in my own head once I really started paying attention.  What else did I discover? The negative thoughts were almost 100% of the time directed at…myself.

I realized that I was talking to myself (in my head and sometimes under my breath) in a mean manner I would never talk to anyone, not a friend, not my child, not even a stranger. Now I am not going to say that I am miraculously cured and this never, ever happens anymore.

Instead, I will just say that I notice it now, I catch myself, and then I frequently think: “You dummy, you are doing it again.” Then I remind myself to be nice and talk as if I were talking to my child or my best friend. Things have gotten better, mostly. Continue reading »

A Dad’s Point-of-View, by Bruce Sallan – Is There Shame Anymore?

 Posted by Bruce on June 25, 2010  General  No Responses »
Jun 252010
 

Before I delve into the subject of “Shame,” I want to share some news of which I’m very unashamed and proud. I have a new radio show called “The Bruce Sallan Show–A Dad’s Point-of-View,” which is inspired, if not actually based, on my columns. It is broadcast on KZSB AM1290, The Santa Barbara News Press Radio Station, and can be heard “live” on Thursdays from 11:00 a.m. 12:00 p.m., PST with re-broadcasts each Thursday evening from 9:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m., PST and Saturdays from 12:00 p.m. – 1:00 p.m, PST. The show is available to hear on the Internet anywhere in the world via “live streaming,” which is accessible on my web-site (brucesallan.com). Each show is archived, also on my web-site, for listening anytime, without commercials.

Right now, the format of the show is in five segments. The first one features me introducing each show, giving the call-in and e-mail information, taking calls, and presenting each week’s topic. What follows next are three segments, each with different guests, “The Men’s Room,” “Teen Rap,” and “Single Parent Seeking.” The last segment is me, again, wrapping up the show with a summary of what was discussed, more calls and e-mail, and a peek or tease about next week’s show.

It’s a fun and challenging new venue for my views on parenthood, marriage, teens, boys, gender issues, and all the other things I like to write about. I hope that you’ll tune in sometime, listen to the archived shows, and call or e-mail if you’re particularly interested in a given show’s topic. Continue reading »