How do you deal with change?
By Tracy | March 31, 2010
You know the saying, “The only two things you can count on is death and taxes?” Well, I declare I would like to add a third thing you can count on. Change. There is not a person I know that isn’t going through some sort of change right now. Some major and some minor. I believe that even when something, someone or some circumstance seems bad, in the end it always works out for the greater good of everyone. It would make your head spin if I told you all of the change I’ve been through in the past 9 months. It makes me dizzy when I think about it. No doubt about it one of the most exciting and scariest roller coasters I’ve ever been on. And it feels like a test. A test where my higher self is challenging me to make choices that are more in alignment with who I really am.
I think many, many people are feeling the tug to re-evaluate how they have been living their lives and ask themselves what do I really want, who am I really, and am I really happy with the way things are right now? Again, pretty much every person I talk to is at this place. I especially see it in my organizing clients. It’s almost as if they “woke up” and realized how much the quality of their life has suffered because of what they allowed to have control in their lives. Awareness is half the battle. But once I have the awareness, I have the choice of either doing something about it now or continuing to do what I’ve always done expecting the same results which, of course, is the definition of insanity. I don’t think the worse part of being aware that something needs to change is not doing anything about it. The worse part is knowing and refusing to do anything about it. That’s called a hardknock life and that life is not a cup of tea.
Some people handle change very well, others absolutely crumble. So the question becomes what is the best way to handle change? I think the answer is actually very simple, know yourself. And I guess the question all depends on if you define change good or bad. I’ve attempted many different ways to deal with change. Change initially use to freak me out. My body would physically react to any upset in the way things have been. The ironic thing is I get really bored when things stay the same. And it depends where I’m at in my life and how much I’ve grown spiritually that determines how I’m handling the change. I must admit in my younger years, dealing with change which always felt like it was gargantuan would inspire my destructive habits. Getting older I realized that I can’t keep handling change in this way so I looked for alternatives. Over the years here are a few that I stash in my back pocket:
1) Workout
2) Drink lots of water, eat right and take vitamins
3) Get out and be with friends and have fun to get out of my head
4) Sit near the ocean
5) Write or read
6) Aromatherapy
7) Draw up a plan and take action
Talk to someone who may provide a different way to look at it
9) Coaching
10) SLEEP
and the last two that seem to be the hardest
11) Breathe and be still
12) Praying
and the most difficult one of them all
13) SURRENDING!
My mother told me 15 years ago when I was going through some tough changes, that I just need to pray about it. I was so mad she said that because I wanted some practical advice. And at the time praying and anything spiritual was something I was so not connected with. Now, I’m truly learning the art of praying, surrending and asking for help. I didn’t know life could be so much easier by just doing these three things. I can’t tell you how many women I know who if they just learned to ask for help, how much easier their lives would be.
And if you do choose to go this path, just remember the serenity poem:
- God, grant me the serenity
- To accept the things I cannot change;
- The courage to change the things that I can;
- And the wisdom to know the difference.
So whether you are changing homes, changes jobs, changing partners or changing diapers, find your way to manage it and still feel good and know that it all works out for your benefit in the end.
Taking a stand for space.
Tracy
Single mom and organizing expert, Tracy Paye has been transforming spaces into livable and lovable environments since the age of 12. Tracy’s passion is to help people experience freedom from their stuff and re-design their lives. Through hands on organizing, coaching, consulting, speaking engagements, media appearances, and writing Tracy has positively impacted countless people by inspiring, empowering and motivating people to take action and gain control of their lives. If you are interested to learn more about Tracy’s organizing services you can visit her site at www.miss-organized.com. You can also follow her on Twitter at www.twitter.com/missorganized.
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