Single Parents Town Blog

“No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

As many of you who have followed me over the years know, I have had my share of set backs. I will tell you that if I knew then what I know now, I would have been more at peace. When I first found out that my wife was having an issue with alcohol I really didn’t share it with anyone. After all I am a man and men are not good at sharing. We like to internalize our thoughts and feelings. A lot of times we men perceive it to be a sign of weakness. Once I learned that I was not weak I began to share what was going on in my life. It amazed me to learn how many other people had experienced the same issues in their life. It seemed like everyone had a close friend or family member that had an issue with alcohol at one time or another. I started to realize that the kids and I were not alone. In a strange way this made me feel better but at the same time made me sad for those who had gone through the exact experiences as I was.

Well here I am years later, a bit wiser but at the same time a bit scared. I will never be able to put those experiences behind me and quite honestly I don’t want to. They have made me stronger, wiser and more resilient. I wish for my children’s sake that they did not have to happen but they did. All that we can do as a family is learn from them and hopefully reach out to help others. Continue reading »

Paris has finally lost one of her top front teeth or as she called it when she was younger, her “toofus”.  She looks so freggin adorable I can hardly stand it.  Her other tooth turned Gray when she was 2 because she fell down and hit it.  Of course, not wanting her to feel bad about the way it looks, I have told her it’s her special tooth.  I wish she would lose that one right now so I can see her with both front teeth missing.  Her tooth fairies name is Sabrina.  Her dad forgot to put money under her pillow this time and when she woke up to look for it and it wasn’t there, of course, she was upset.   So I told her that Sabrina was on vacation and she left the responsibility of putting the money under the pillow to her assistant and her assistant forgot.  So I made a special call and Sabrina came off her vacation specifically to handle the situation.  Good ole Sabrina.

That reminds me of a funny saying Paris once said to me.  I was lying on the ground, pretty exhausted, and she lies on top of me and says, “Mom, I love you so much, you’re like my assistant.”  LOL.  What comes out of the mouth of babes.   The even funnier thing is she had two assistants in Kindergarten.  One who carried her book bag for her.  She downgraded to one assistant in 1^st grade and now there has been no talk of any more assistants in 2^nd grade.   Must be the economy.

She wears her toothless grin with such pride.  It’s interesting to me that when we are younger, appearance doesn’t matter as much.  Physical appearance or how we naturally show up.  Paris is very animated, funny, loud and silly.  She has absolutely no problem break dancing in public, doing a cart wheel or hand stand while we are just walking around or even doing a spontaneous performance of Thriller in Target.  I’m not kidding.  I love that about her and I miss that about myself.  I would say, I perform random acts of silliness in public without any shame more than the average adult, but I do still have my ego and sometimes Paris wants me to engage in silliness that is beyond my ego’s comfort level.  I don’t want to tell her it’s too embarrassing which frustrates me cuz I don’t want to care how much attention I’ll draw to me.  But sometimes, I just do.  So sue me.  I do.  But then there are other times when I’m so caught up in the fun of acting like a kid, that Paris looks at me and says, “Mom, you’re embarrassing me.”  Oy vei.  Continue reading »