How much sense does this make?
“In order to gain control of your life, often times, it’s imperative that some people learn how to let go of control.”
In the process, just as important, is gaining the ability to be able to look at yourself, and not blame everything and everyone else for where you’re at in life. “When you point the finger at others, you’ve got three pointing right back at you.”
I like knowing that when I can take responsibility for my failures, I can take responsibility for my successes, too. However, when I fail, I can’t blame anyone else. With that being said, when I succeed, I didn’t do it by myself.
Throughout my teenage years, and into my early 20’s, I walked around with a chip on my shoulder. By the time I was 22, there was a deep anger inside of me, due to little things that would happen. Over time, those little things mounted up. You would never know it, because I always had a good attitude, but it was there.
Did it just automatically go away one day? “No!”
In fact, I try to keep it inside of me. I just channel it much differently. I am not an angry person. I like to think that I am a very positive thinking person. However, I never want to feel like I don’t have something to prove.
As I think about how I want to raise my son, I often vision him with good self esteem, and healthy ego. However, what is that point, where one goes from having a healthy ego, to being an ego maniac? What is that line between when everyone loves you, and everyone hates you.
I believe the #1 factor to making sure that you don’t cross that line, is possessing a little bit of humility.
“But Jerry, com’n, everyone knows that!”
My response to that would be: “Really! Are you sure?”
If I can teach my son one thing, it would be what I believe makes successful people successful: “Relationships, relationships, relationships!”
What are the keys to good, strong, healthy relationships? Trust and respect.
I want him to understand that there are a lot of people out there that believe in order to be successful you walk all over others, to get what you want, with complete disregard for your fellow members of society. Unfortunately, those people have got it all wrong.
Yes, you need to be firm with your values. You can’t let people push you around. Just as important is respecting the values of others, and not being a bully.
I heard a quote the other day, which I really liked:
