Comments on: “I’m Mad as Hell” http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/ Helping Single Parents Succeed Thu, 02 Sep 2010 02:32:58 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Crystal Jacquez http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Crystal Jacquez Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:44:03 +0000 http://www.singledadstown.com/blog//?p=30#comment-53 San Francisco, CA Single Moms On Facebook And MySpace Warned About Pre-Schooler Pix Online -- “Single mothers who put photos of their pre-school kids on their social networking homepages are creating a happy hunting ground for pedophiles.” The warning comes from Crystal Jacquez, managing editor of Guys and Lies.com, the online back grounding site designed for women. “Single mothers almost always do it.” says, Jacquez. “It’s not only incredibly dangerous but worse, most single moms have absolutely no idea that it’s dangerous at all!” “Think of it,” continues Jacquez, “if you’re one of the tens of thousands of pedophiles with a taste for really young kids, how do you get to them? Children under five or six are just too young to be online. “So what does this most dangerous form of pedophiles do?” asks Jacquez, “He surfs social networking sites looking for the pages of young single mothers. Literally, millions of single moms are now on social networks like Facebook and MySpace -- and almost all of them proudly show off photos of their kids on their homepages and profiles. So if you’re a pedophile stalking preschoolers, half an hour of searching out single mothers on social sites and you’ve got a dozen lush candidates – photos and all - just a few key strokes away”. Not only that, but these predators know that these kids are often protected only by lonely, vulnerable women --- women who are looking for men who they hope love children. WHAT AN OPPORTUNITY! It’s a pedophile’s dream! Read this excerpt from a report in the journal American Psychologist, published by the American Psychological Association, regarding pedophiles stalking pre-schoolers on the internet: “Finding prepubescent victims directly (on the Internet) is quite rare; such offenders use the Internet in other ways. Pedophiles typically get access to preschool victims through online contact with parents” “If you have pictures of your child on line,” says Jacquez, “don’t be too surprised to get a message like the following from some nice sounding guy”: “Hey! I just saw your profile on Facebook and you are one great looking lady --- and that little girl of yours is just marvelous looking! She looks so bright etc. etc. etc!” “You’re going to have a new best friend very soon,” she says. “Count on it!” Who hasn’t heard of Lolita, one of the most famous books in America, in which the pedophile gets access to the prepubescent daughter by courting her divorced mother. You can still see the movie on cable TV with James Mason and Shelley Winters as the grown-ups and Sue Lyon as Lolita.? Jacquez also cites the following statistic from: Offender Characteristics, U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics re. Victim-offender relationships in sexual assault regarding who sexually assaults children under 6 years old. Who assaults children under 6 years old: Trusted family members: 48.6% Strangers: 3.1% Trusted family acquaintances: 48.3% “If a pedophile targets your child’s photo on your homepage, trust us,” says Jacquez, “they’ll become a ‘trusted family acquaintance’ soon enough. “Don’t close down your social network homepages” Jacquez says. “Just get those photos of your kids off them!” “One thing more thing,” says Jacquez, “when you meet a new guy online, check him out immediately with us at Guys and Lies.com (www.guysandlies.com). Our site is free and was built in order to empower women to check out the backgrounds of guys that they meet online. “First, check our Child Molesters Section where we access the photos and home addresses of over 360,000 registered sex offenders. Then check him out in our Criminal Records Section. Then check to see if he’s using a phony name. After that, check out all his claims about his background. “There is no way,” she says, “that you can be too careful.” Guys and Lies also has a special page on Facebook at www.facebook.com/guysandlies, and on MySpace at www.myspace.com/guysandlies. Jacquez asks you to please forward this article to single moms you know who have their kid’s photos online.. Contact: Crystal Jacquez, managing editor Guys and Lies.com 415 678-8610 crystal@guysandlies.com http://www.guysandlies.com San Francisco, CA

Single Moms On Facebook And MySpace Warned About Pre-Schooler Pix Online —

“Single mothers who put photos of their pre-school kids on their social networking homepages are creating a happy hunting ground for pedophiles.”

The warning comes from Crystal Jacquez, managing editor of Guys and Lies.com, the online back grounding site designed for women.

“Single mothers almost always do it.” says, Jacquez. “It’s not only incredibly dangerous but worse, most single moms have absolutely no idea that it’s dangerous at all!”

“Think of it,” continues Jacquez, “if you’re one of the tens of thousands of pedophiles with a taste for really young kids, how do you get to them? Children under five or six are just too young to be online.

“So what does this most dangerous form of pedophiles do?” asks Jacquez, “He surfs social networking sites looking for the pages of young single mothers.

Literally, millions of single moms are now on social networks like Facebook and MySpace — and almost all of them proudly show off photos of their kids on their homepages and profiles.

So if you’re a pedophile stalking preschoolers, half an hour of searching out single mothers on social sites and you’ve got a dozen lush candidates – photos and all – just a few key strokes away”.

Not only that, but these predators know that these kids are often protected only by lonely, vulnerable women — women who are looking for men who they hope love children. WHAT AN OPPORTUNITY! It’s a pedophile’s dream!

Read this excerpt from a report in the journal American Psychologist, published by the American Psychological Association, regarding pedophiles stalking pre-schoolers on the internet:

“Finding prepubescent victims directly (on the Internet) is quite rare; such offenders use the Internet in other ways. Pedophiles typically get access to preschool victims through online contact with parents”

“If you have pictures of your child on line,” says Jacquez, “don’t be too surprised to get a message like the following from some nice sounding guy”:

“Hey! I just saw your profile on Facebook and you are one great looking lady — and that little girl of yours is just marvelous looking! She looks so bright etc. etc. etc!”

“You’re going to have a new best friend very soon,” she says. “Count on it!”

Who hasn’t heard of Lolita, one of the most famous books in America, in which the pedophile gets access to the prepubescent daughter by courting her divorced mother. You can still see the movie on cable TV with James Mason and Shelley Winters as the grown-ups and Sue Lyon as Lolita.?

Jacquez also cites the following statistic from: Offender Characteristics, U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics re. Victim-offender relationships in sexual assault regarding who sexually assaults children under 6 years old.

Who assaults children under 6 years old:

Trusted family members: 48.6%
Strangers: 3.1%
Trusted family acquaintances: 48.3%

“If a pedophile targets your child’s photo on your homepage, trust us,” says Jacquez, “they’ll become a ‘trusted family acquaintance’ soon enough.

“Don’t close down your social network homepages” Jacquez says. “Just get those photos of your kids off them!”

“One thing more thing,” says Jacquez, “when you meet a new guy online, check him out immediately with us at Guys and Lies.com (www.guysandlies.com). Our site is free and was built in order to empower women to check out the backgrounds of guys that they meet online.

“First, check our Child Molesters Section where we access the photos and home addresses of over 360,000 registered sex offenders. Then check him out in our Criminal Records Section. Then check to see if he’s using a phony name. After that, check out all his claims about his background. “There is no way,” she says, “that you can be too careful.”

Guys and Lies also has a special page on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/guysandlies, and on MySpace at http://www.myspace.com/guysandlies.

Jacquez asks you to please forward this article to single moms you know who have their kid’s photos online..

Contact:
Crystal Jacquez, managing editor
Guys and Lies.com
415 678-8610
crystal@guysandlies.com
http://www.guysandlies.com

]]> By: Bill http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-42 Bill Sun, 18 Jan 2009 01:04:39 +0000 http://www.singledadstown.com/blog//?p=30#comment-42 John hang in there. It is OK to feel this way as long as you are willing to work at feeling happy again. There is an old saying that "You can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf". There is a great article on this site under the "Depressed, sad, confused its Ok" section. It is titled "Are you carrying emotional baggage". Please take a look at it. I wish you all the best John hang in there. It is OK to feel this way as long as you are willing to work at feeling happy again. There is an old saying that “You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf”. There is a great article on this site under the “Depressed, sad, confused its Ok” section. It is titled “Are you carrying emotional baggage”. Please take a look at it. I wish you all the best

]]> By: John http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-41 John Sat, 17 Jan 2009 14:36:50 +0000 http://www.singledadstown.com/blog//?p=30#comment-41 Hello Bill. I admire your ability to hang in there for your kids. My last girlfriend had 2 7 year old daughters. However, our relationship only lasted 3 months and ended on December 29, 2008. I can't tell you how heart breaking it is to me. The reason for this is, because I failed them. But please understand that this was a long distance relationship and it was extremely hard hearing her cry on the phone to me and I powerless to be anymore than someone who could only listen. She of course is a single mom and I had not had kids before so I did not quite know what to expect. She is of course going to be the last girlfriend I will ever have because I can't feel as though I am worth anything these days. I do believe though she is choosing to be a single mom because she has since cut off all communication with me. But, I can say that her and the girls will always have my heart. See, it is not always that we choose to be a dead beat dad. It is sometimes that the parent becomes so strong that we feel as though we are not helping at all. Hello Bill. I admire your ability to hang in there for your kids. My last girlfriend had 2 7 year old daughters. However, our relationship only lasted 3 months and ended on December 29, 2008. I can’t tell you how heart breaking it is to me. The reason for this is, because I failed them. But please understand that this was a long distance relationship and it was extremely hard hearing her cry on the phone to me and I powerless to be anymore than someone who could only listen. She of course is a single mom and I had not had kids before so I did not quite know what to expect. She is of course going to be the last girlfriend I will ever have because I can’t feel as though I am worth anything these days. I do believe though she is choosing to be a single mom because she has since cut off all communication with me. But, I can say that her and the girls will always have my heart. See, it is not always that we choose to be a dead beat dad. It is sometimes that the parent becomes so strong that we feel as though we are not helping at all.

]]> By: Bill http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Bill Thu, 15 Jan 2009 14:43:02 +0000 http://www.singledadstown.com/blog//?p=30#comment-37 Thanks Debbie. Life is funny how it throws you a curve ball every once in awhile. It is great to know that you will have no problem hitting each curve life throws you with such a great attitude. Thanks Debbie. Life is funny how it throws you a curve ball every once in awhile. It is great to know that you will have no problem hitting each curve life throws you with such a great attitude.

]]> By: Debbie http://www.singleparentstown.com/blog/2009/01/05/bill/im-mad-as-hell/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Debbie Thu, 15 Jan 2009 03:22:24 +0000 http://www.singledadstown.com/blog//?p=30#comment-36 Hi Bill, I am one of those 10 million plus single moms, who happens to be very proud of what you are doing. I am so blessed to have 7 year old twin daughters, I thank God every day for them. I didn't think I would be a single mom at 40, but things happen. It was a nice feeling, knowing I got to read the BLOG of a "DAD," not just a father, but a "DAD." Keep writing, you have us all reading and waiting for more. I'm so glad I found your blog this evening. Take care and God Bless, Debbie Hi Bill,
I am one of those 10 million plus single moms, who happens to be very proud of what you are doing. I am so blessed to have 7 year old twin daughters, I thank God every day for them. I didn’t think I would be a single mom at 40, but things happen. It was a nice feeling, knowing I got to read the BLOG of a “DAD,” not just a father, but a “DAD.” Keep writing, you have us all reading and waiting for more. I’m so glad I found your blog this evening.

Take care and God Bless,
Debbie

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